A few months ago i told my counselor that i sometimes self harm.?

Question

At the time i was very embarassed and brushed over it. She hasn't mentioned it since and i can't bring myself to tell her again. But its something i really want to talk to her about. Why do you think that she hasn't mentioned it? Do you think she thinks its not important? Or is it because at the time i didn't want to talk about it?

Answer 1

She remembers, and she thinks it's important, but if you were uncomfortable talking about it at the time, she's not going to force you to keep talking about it. She has no way to know you're ready to talk about it now, which is why she hasn't brought it up, and likely won't until you tell her you want to talk about it. Self harm is essentially a symptom of other problems, presumably the problems you're seeing her for in the first place, and as such you don't necessarily have to talk about directly to deal with it. If you're addressing the issues that are making you hurt yourself and learning healthy ways to deal with them, then you would only have to address the self harm directly if you learned to deal with the underlying issues and still can't stop self harming. That's probably why your counselor doesn't bring it up specifically - she can help you with it whether you talk about it or not, and if talking about it makes you uncomfortable then why do it?

It's good that you want to talk to her about it. What I said about the underlying issues doesn't mean it's not still better to talk about it if you can. It is still better if you can talk about it, and it's also a good sign about your mental health that you feel ready to talk about it now.

Remember that this time you're not telling her that you self harm - she already knows that - you're just telling her you're ready to talk about it. Presumably something about it bothers you or you wouldn't want to talk about it, so tell her what it is that bothers you. Or if you can't do that, write it down in advance and give the note to her during your next counseling session. You could even just print out this question and give it to her. That way you're telling her that you're ready to talk about it, but she can start the conversation for you, and ask questions to get you started talking.

Answer 2

although it's true that many therapists do want to wait until a patient is ready and willing to bring something up, with a problem like self harming it is more common for the therapist to be more active in asking about this because it is such a dangerous problem with immediate consequences.

when you told her about it, do you think that you made it seem as if it was a problem you had in the past that wasn't much of an issue anymore? how much did you down-play it and brush it off? i would really recommend that you try to talk to her again. maybe if you don't feel comfortable bringing it up face-to-face you could call and leave her a mesage about it

good luck

Answer 3

Self harming behaviour is very serious.It is as serious as eating disorders and addictions.Please find a counselor that will take you seriously.If this counselor were good, she would have helped you to talk about it.Of course, you can always ask her why she hasn't brought it up but I would look for someone who is going to help you discover what you can do instead of self-harming.It is a way of control.If you are cutting or burning yourself, it makes you feel relief just as an alchoholic drinks to feel relief.There are a lot of other ways to feel relief that are not damaging.You simply need to practice the good behaviours. Easily said than done. Good luck and don't give up!

Answer 4

There are different teachings as counsellors... but the core teaching is often that of "client-centred therapy" this basically stops the counsellor from being able to 'probe' into the client's life and ask too many questions... the counsellor is there to listen to you and feels that you will bring up the topics that are most relevant at a time when you feel safe discussing them..

It may be that your counsellor is using this client-centred counselling method and is therefore hoping that eventually you'll be comfortable enough to bring the topic up with her when you are ready... it is her job just to make you feel comfortable enough to talk to her... there is no way that she feels it is unimportant... it is more likely that she realised you had trouble talking about it and she may just feel it is more important to let you talk about it at your own pace. She may worry that her forcing the topic could be more harmful than waiting to see if you bring it up again.

If you now feel ready to talk about it then bring it up with her again.. good luck and take care :)

Answer 5

confident tell them you have suicidal recommendations, by using fact a number of the medicine they prescribe may lead them to worse, so as that they might desire to be attentive to. in the event that they ask in case you have a plan on a thank you to, say no. by using fact in case you're saying confident, then they are obligated to have you ever committed. At any time they might choose for which you're a risk to your self and function you committed for assessment. that is not vast deal, even though it sounds so severe. that is in basic terms some days ( if no longer much less) in a room which you will no longer probable kill your self in. in case you began attempting to harm your self and that they seize it, then you definately would be sedated. So stay away from all that, confident tell them approximately self-harming, this is a time-honored phenomenon. they are going to provide you what drugs they might, you ought to attempt extra advantageous than one till you detect one that facilitates. provide them each 6 weeks till they reason unfavorable reactions bodily or mentally. Counseling is additionally pronounced, yet shop searching for solutions for your self, do no longer in basic terms anticipate the medical doctors to discern it out. . there's a reason for this, and that is not you! ( or your fault). They in all risk will tell your father and mom to maintain a watch on you, yet i does not concern approximately that, your mom already is prevalent with sufficient to be taking you to the surgeon, so do no longer concern approximately one extra advantageous piece of information. Get your father and mom to appreciate that is not your fault.

Answer 6

she would have easily sensed that you didnt want to talk about it, and its not a big deal that she didnt bring it up again.

are you still self harming? if not, then i really dont see why it needs to be brought up in conversation again. but if you are, then do mention it to her. it is important, and she will be interested.

dont shy away from it if its still a problem. get it sorted. :)

Answer 7

Perhaps she noticed you were uncomfortable about the issue at the time and has not mentioned it as she is waiting until you feel ready to talk about it....go on...its obviously an issue that you need to discuss with her...sure it will help.

Answer 8

Because it's not her job as a counsellor to ask you questions. She is allowing you to talk about what you want. I'm sure that she does think it is important, but she doesn't want to force you to talk about it in case you clam up. If you want to talk about it, do so - she isn't there to judge. I hope you feel able to talk to her about it soon - and that you feel better too. Take care.

Answer 9

Many counsellors want the 'client' to bring up what is relevant to themselves. So if you haven't mentioned it, do mention it next time you go. Most likely, she thought it wasn't something you wanted to go into.

Best wishes.

Answer 10

I told my doc about it and she asks about it every time i see her. She also asked if I was comfortable showing it to her. I really feel your counselor should have asked you about it again. Its something that needs to be taken seriously. Tell her its something that is concerning you and has for some time.