what's wrong with my dad?

Question

this mornin my dad told me to get some extra clothes together (but he fussed while I did), but that i was gonna stay at my moms but he had a realy bad attitude I asked what was wrong and he said my mom needed to take some responsibility my mom has raised me since i was 71/2 i moved in with my dad about a year and a half ago he told me i couldn't go see my nanna cuz he didn't want me to be a burden on her it realy hurt whats goin on it's not bad enough he's with a woman i hate she's constantly talkin bout my mom not takin care of us. but my mom does even though she hasn't worked in over a year and neither does her boyfriend but she helps my lil brother with his home work every evenin and tries to make sure we get what we want and need all my dad does is occasionally give me lunch and break money what am i suppose to do my dads house is home even when his g/f is there she doesn't like me at all but thats ok my dads is home : (

Answer 1

I want your Dad to see this question. It is about time he took responsibility for his child and put the girlfriend in her place. She should not be living with a man, with his children in the house, that she is not married to in the first place. This is setting a bad example for the child. If the girl friend wants to stick around she should accept he is father first and a boy friend second. He will always be a father and has to step up to the plate and act like one. He should not be telling you to pack-up because the girlfriend pressured him to do this. From what you say that is exactly how this looks. He should tell the girlfriend to pack-up and take the emotional stress off himself and his child (you). I am so fed up with parents that don't put the needs of their children first. These boy friend and girl friends coming between parents and their children is so wrong. If they want to be involved with a person who has children they have to stop acting like children themselves.

Answer 2

Everyone involved in this situation is under a lot of stress. Divorce is harder on some families that others. It sounds like yours is not handling it well enough.

With all that you say, you really need to talk to someone who is trained in advising people with problems. Are you involved in a church where you could talk to a councilor? Perhaps at school. There are also agencies who can help, no matter what the financial situation is.

If the one you choose to help does not satisfy you, do NOT be hesitant to try another. Finding someone who will listen and advise you with out their own personal bias is more difficult than it should be.

Sorry to hear things are going badly.

There is a pretty good chance that your father is under so much stress that he is not acting as he normally would. The same is possible for your mother. Don't let this get you down. They are both probably lashing out because they are very frustrated with their life.

As far as the spelling an grammar are concerned. I know that you don't need to hear any criticizm right now, but people do judge you by your writing style. Keep that in mind, there is no hurry in typing your question.

Answer 3

It must be a very difficult and confusing time for you and your brother. Having a child in the house doesn't necessarily make one responsible. For your father to say that you would be a burden to anyone, is just plain not right and he should NOT have said that to you! His girlfriend needs to learn respect too. Right now you sound more grown up than any adult in the house.

It sounds like you have a very caring Mom. Working or not outside the home, wouldn't change that. When you see your Mom, talk to her about everything you have said here. Or print out this page for her to read. What is happening at your Dad's house needs to stop for the emotional well being of you and your brother.

Good luck to you and hang in there.

Answer 4

Your Dad sounds like a loser. Get a job so you can help with the bills and move in with your Mom again. Your Dad is going to bring you down...move on and let him be a miserable old man.

Answer 5

Well for one thing he was wrong to tell you you would be a burden to your nana...I am sure she doesn't see it that way....Sounds like dads gf is putting some of her ideas into your dads head ,,,She may be his gf, but you should come first and he should listen to what you have to say....Sounds like you need alot of freinds.......I want you to tell your dad we need to talk...Do not let this man out of your life, because you will regret it later...tell him how you feel the good and the bad .......And let him know that you just want to be happy and in his life,,, and your moms but that the gf needs to stop putting in her two cents because this is not about her...This is something between you and your father.......Good Luck...Hope I helped

Answer 6

sounds like both your parents need to grow up and take responsibility for you and take care of you the way you deserve.

Answer 7

It's okay just ignore the first replyer to your question. they are one of those crazy spelling obsessed people. anyways, for your problem. You just have to talk to your dad about talking this stuff about your mother that you dont appreciate it.

Answer 8

All i can think of is your dads girl friend has persuaded him to get u to go back to your mum.