way out of control children?I invited them to my daughter's 3rd birthday party.They have 4 children,ages 4-10 and all four of them cuss and bite and hit and are just all around monsters.Well at first my uncle told me that it would just be him and his wife at the party but they can't find a sitter and want to bring the kids.And my mother has invited a long time family friend to the party who is a nun.I'm worried what she's going to think.I have no clue on how to let my uncle know that if he can't control those kids then he can't come.He really wants to be there and he's usually a good guy but I can't deal with his kids.
2007-02-01 02:10:43 · 11 answers · asked by Sweetbear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You sit those kids down and tell them this is YOUR house and if they don't put a lid on that behaviour, than they'll be sitting in the CAR! It's still YOUR house. I hope that if anyone adult or child should disrespect you, that you can handle telling them to leave. It's time to feel your power as the queen of your castle. Warn your uncle that if he or his wife takes no action, you surely will.
Either they won't come, or you can show them how to rule the roost.
2007-02-01 02:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your uncle just as you told us. And DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT bribe the children to behave it will only encourage them to misbehave later on. If they know that they can get a treat out of misbehaving they will do just that, misbehave until they get the bribe.
If these kids get out of control and their parents won't do anything about them warn them that if those kids are do not start behaving in the next 5 minutes that they will need to leave and the kids will not be allowed back in YOUR house until they have some manners and can behave. I am also a firm believer that if the child is in YOUR house YOU have the right to scold them, my family has practiced this for years and it has taught the younger parents in my family how to deal with their kids and how the children should act in public.
Also as suggested above, warn the nun how these kids behave, she might be able to give the parents some tips.
2007-02-01 03:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweat bear, tell the Nun ahead of time.. Do not try to hide the fact that those kids are rotten.. It isen't your fault.. If the Nun doesn't have a clue that there is bad children in the world, then she is about to find out..
Maybe she will have a way to tell your uncle that the kids are out of line and then maybe, you might see that she can connect with them on their level..
I think it might be a good thing..
Good Luck..
2007-02-01 02:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by tiny b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be polite but firmly blunt about the problem. It may be offensive to your uncle but society all around he and his family are ignoring their responsibility in the matter just as he and his wife are.Put yourself in his position would you rather be corrected or informed about this from someone who is part of the family and loves this family or strangers in a public gathering.The children cannot raise themselves and inwardly the parents are crying out help help!!
2007-02-01 02:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that there is going to be someone very important there and that if he would not mind telling his kids to watch their language and attitudes while at the party. if all else fails brib the kids with candy or a couple dollars lol. i know it sounds crazy but i have a newphew like that and bribs work bc i cant rightfully chew is butt for the things he does and says bc i am not is parent but he is a well behaved kid around me . lol
2007-02-01 02:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him just as you told us and when they come to the party watch his kids. When one does something wrong tell them that you don't approve of that kind of behavior/ languange. Inform dad and mom every time you see something that they need to tend to little Johnny. If they are up and down often enough they will probably leave eary or strighten their kids out. We have a few of these in our family and telling the parents to go get little Johnny every five minutes seems to help.
2007-02-01 02:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly stop inviting them. do you really want your daughter picking up on their child's behavior. my daughter is almost 8months and i wont let her be around my 11yr. old cousin who talks back to her parents, tells them no and if she doesn't get her way she throws a huge hissy fit and irritates them til they say yes. she also lies to their faces, and they know she is and she beats up on her friends. so i decided that i was not going to have my daughter around her because i will not put up with that behavior. honestly explain to them that until they can gain control of their kids they are no longer invited to anything that you throw/host.
2007-02-01 02:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by ber-ber21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him! The parents of these children need to teach them some manners.
2007-02-01 02:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you cant be open & honest with family who can you be open & honest with right?
Just tell it like it is.....Be honest but nice about it.
2007-02-01 02:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a belt and teach em' a leson (just kidding)
2007-02-01 03:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by john w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋