Maybe I had met with too many jerks before...had really bad relationship and now, I lost trust in guys. The only guys now whom took interest in me were either married or attached. I feel so disgusted by them. And plus friends surrounding me are getting married and divorced as soon as 3 months time. I had lost trust in relationship totally. It makes me feel love will never lasts nowadays.. Do I need counseling?
2007-02-01 02:10:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It got so worse that every guy I see, be it he's interested or not interested, first thing that come to my mind was 'they are just out for sex' Sorry, I know it's not healthy but I can't help thinking this way....
2007-02-01 02:26:52 · update #1
Some counseling could help. As I was growing up I considered myself a s#%t magnet. At 21 I met this guy and never thought I would find true long-lasting love because of what I have experienced and the divorce rate around me and in the world. 11 yrs. later, I couldn't be happier. We got married after dating for 6 yrs. True love is out there. Don't close your heart to great possibilities. Things like these usually come when you don't expect it. Don't search for the one, or keep yourself out of the spot light. This is your life and you deserve to be happy. Just because something doesn't work out for your friends, it doesn't mean it couldn't for you. The married guys and the attached guys can probably sense that lack of love you feel for yourself and prey on it like hounds. Stay away from that. Take some time to focus on yourself first. Realize that a man does not define who you are and that you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. Good luck to you.
2007-02-01 02:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by zumi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counseling isn't for disease, some times you just need an opinion from someone who isn't involved in your life. (Sort of why you ask questions on here!)
Now I know how you feel, and if all the guys you are dating are jerks, then perhaps you should look at the image you project. Stop going to the same places you always go. If you've had bad luck with "bad boys" then look for a nice guy.
Alot of times, we cause ourselves alot of grief. Good luck and don't give up hope. Love does exist, people do still get married and stay married.
2007-02-01 02:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by moderncutthroat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as needing counseling that's neither a yes or no answer the choice is yours. On the rest I can't say I blame you. Give it time. Be yourself. Hang out with friends mainly female friends but a few guys you really like and trust too and give it time. Your heart will heal and you will love again. But you have to want to heal and love again some day. Good luck there girl. Today is the first day of the rest of your life what are you going to do with it?
2007-02-01 02:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing. Everybody's been screwed over by somebody of the opposite sex. Probably multiple 'somebodies'.
Take it from me, I've been screwed over by a few girls... but I've also screwed over a few myself.
You've had some bad experiences, and it's important to keep the lessons learned from them fresh in your mind.
But it's also important that you separate the old jerks from the new ones. If you look at a new guy... and all you can see is the last jerk who screwed you over... you're gonna be alone forever.
Maybe you're going to get hurt, but what's worse? Being happy for a while and then being hurt? Or being like you are now? And wondering if there's something wrong with you...
2007-02-01 02:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of females go through that phase where it seems only married men are interested in us.
I think you're getting a high dose of ugly reality and as you mature you will start to know what is or isn't acceptable traits and behaviors for the men you would want to date.
Not all guys are bad. And we do have the ability to see red flags, its just sometimes we choose not to.
2007-02-01 02:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you need counseling...you just sound frustrated with how relationships can be now a days...and thats completely understandable...but i think you should not lose all trust...there are some good men out there...and when you find that person or they find you, you will know it...but i do understand how you feel i have been there at times too
2007-02-01 02:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love & relationships will not happen just like that. you have to work for it. Add so much patience and wait. don't give up hope, there are so many good people living around you. Good luck.
2007-02-01 02:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sure where you are coming from...If you meant if I were on a date and he said," Trust me I am a gynecologist" I would ask to see his license or if I didnt believe him I would just laugh at him and say,"ok..maybe that can come in handy later in our relationship!" ha ha
2016-05-24 01:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so you just need to hang in there, "stay in your own lane", and don't put expectations out there. Sooner or later you'll find what your looking for.
2007-02-01 02:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, the things in life are like that. I'm 14, and I don't know much, but guys are just like assholes. assholes that just want to **** on everything.
2007-02-01 02:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by Fat guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋