Two days ago I hung out with this girl I like and her friend, we went to a lot of places such as the mall and a bagel shop. It was a pretty fun day, However and I know this isn't really a big deal, but they didn't say thank you or anything when i bought them lunch, bought the tickets for some rides, etc. Overall though it was a pretty fun day. When I dropped off the girl I like, she said to call her today, so I did of course she didn't answer, I left a message, I know shes probably at school but we always hang out during the day LOL, and never for some reason after school. I'm starting to think she might be using me to get out of school, and to buy her everything, I still really like her though, but I'm not sure she likes me or is just using me. BTW I'm in college shes in high school. Anyways should I wait to see if she calls after school and wants to maybe hang out after school, or should I take this as a sign of not wanting to hang out?
2007-02-01 01:53:52 · 16 answers · asked by BAS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems to me that you are more interested in the money you spent, and wanting a pat on the back for what you did. What is the matter, did you not get what you hoped for in return for the money. You can go somewhere to but that if that is the case. You need to be *hanging* around with someone your own age also. You can only be used as much as you allow it.
2007-02-01 01:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion on what you should do is as follows:
Dont call her back. Wait for her to call you.
Dont buy her anything else or pay for her things.
If she calls you back, it may be that she likes you or wants something. If she wants to hang out, cool, but if you Expects you to pay for things.... well I think you'll know what the answer is to the question you are asking. I cant say one way or the other at this point but if it is something that happens more often than not she is probably using you. Yet if it isnt happening that much she could just be embarrassed, broke or used to someone paying her way. Good luck and dont go in this with blind folds on.
2007-02-01 02:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by chaa107 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a big deal that she didn't say thank you. I know that when I like someone I always make sure to say thank you for everything. It seems to me that she might be using you. Give a little more time, but if it does not change it is time to move on. Even if you don't like someone you still always say thank you.. that is just a sign of bad manners and behavior. Good Luck.
2007-02-01 02:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by Katie W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Appears as if these girls are immature and rude to not even say thank you. Sounds as if she was just looking to hang out and have a good time, which you all did. Forget about this and next time she wants to hang out (especially when she wants to include her girlfriend), suggest on going dutch. Too many girls expect the guy to fork over all the expenses of the date all of the time, which I believe is unfair. You might want to go out with a nicer girl. Good luck to you!
2007-02-01 02:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not entirely sure how this girl works but to me it sounds like she may just be a bit rude. Every decent girl/woman will appreciate a man's efforts of showing them a good time. If she doesn't know how to say thank you for something like that, you may want to watch out for other signs that this girl could potentially be a user. Don't get me wrong, she might like you but at the same time she knows what you have to offer if she claims to like you. Just be on the watch for this one, and don't spend so much money on her and her friends unless they pony up the dough when appropriate, chilvary isn't dead, but they're not helpless either. That gives them leeway to use you. Watch out doin that!
2007-02-01 02:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Alyssia K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call her again at a time when you know she'll be home, if she doesn't answer again, wait for her to make the next move. You did all you should do at the moment, and you don't want to appear obsessive. If she doesn;t return your call, get over her. She kind of sounds unapreciative and self-centered, and its probably for the best.
2007-02-01 01:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by Choco_Taco25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, something might have come up and she wasn't able to answer, so wait a while and see if she calls back. You don't want to seem desperate, so don't waste all your time waiting by the phone and see if she calls, either.
2007-02-01 01:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by unicarel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure. but consider all of your options. she sounds like a user to me so do the sensible thing and ask her strait out what the deal is..
2007-02-01 01:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by kf17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't have the common curtiousy to thank you...strike one right there... Don't be so eager!!! Wait until she calls you, or forget about her and move on to "college girls"!!!
2007-02-01 01:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you go out let her treat and see what happens. I f she makes a big deal about it then she is using you. Remember a lady always say thanks so......
2007-02-01 01:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by niesy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋