Ok, so this girl and I were seeing each other, she then told me, out of nowhere, she just wanted to be friends. We stopped talking for a while, but i would always catch her staring at me in the pub and at school.
We are now talking again, on msn, and she keeps telling me weird stuff! Like how her parents keep wondering why she cant get a boyfriend, how her cat can't get a boyfriend, how she thinks she would get on really well with my mum, how she is really depressed and that she was happy a short while back ( we were seeing each other a short while back) .
are these signals to ask her again? or is this just the whole "friendship" thing she said wanted?
2007-02-01 01:43:19 · 19 answers · asked by jon t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems like this girl is a little off the beaten path.
Talking about how her cat cannot get a boyfriend is a little strange if you ask me.
2007-02-01 01:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok u say
look, u keep saying these things and i'm not sure
where u coming from.
what is it u want? do u want a friend or something a little more?
sounds to me like either she doesn't or
she is confused about what she wants
or she thinks it would look good to have a b/f
if the latter, i would wait until she grows up.
otherwise u will never be sure whether she wants u or just
just to be able to say she got one.
alternatively she may be uncertain whether she wants a commited relationship. i am guessing u r both ~ 17.
unless u ask u won't know but bware of no.3 on the list.
good luck2u both.
2007-02-01 01:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say it sounds like she is regretting her decision to just be friends. Sounds like she misses you. Females tend to drop hints rather than be direct, it's the same when we fancy someone for the first time. We prefer the man to take the lead. She probably won't just tell you she wants to get back with you in case you reject her, especially if you have cooled off and accepted the 'friendship'. Maybe the relationship got a bit intense for her too soon and she back tracked. I would bet that she is regretting this. Time for you to do something if you still want her of course. But don't jump straight in and ask her, be subtle, play it by ear coz you don't want to be hurt again. I hope it works out for you but signs are good! :D
2007-02-01 01:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think she is very mixed up, confused and insecure. It doesn't sound like her parents are being as supportive as they could be - although that can be a difficult balancing act.
She's trying to ask you questions to find out what you're really thinking, without actually asking you directly. She'd be very high maintenance as a girlf. Even if they are hint's I'd steer clear unless you want to help her deal with her stuff.
Sounds to me like she's got issue's about dating. Maybe she feels under pressure to start dating, but isn't sure whether she want's to? Maybe she's dropping hint's merely because she feel's she ought to have a boyf rather than because she genuinely likes you? Maybe she's worried about what her parent's think? Maybe her parents are homophobic and jumping to their own conclusions? Maybe kids at school are being nasty about her being single too? Maybe because of the pressure to date she's questioning her sexuality or whether she's normal for not fancying anyone?
In summary. She need's a good friend to confide in that won't spread what she tell's like gossip in the playground.
2007-02-01 03:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Saint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Jon t,
Every relationship works best if it starts out as friendship first. Don't worry about the technicalities. Just be her "friend", if it works out as more- cool, if not just continue to be her friend. You may in the process, find someone else and realise that she wasn't the right one after all.
Good luck, but just take it easy. I can tell she has a lot to think about. I don't think she really knows what she wants just yet.
2007-02-01 02:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have gone from the "boyfriend" catagory to the "friend" catagory. There is no way back from there buddy. She is treating you now like one of her girlfriends, someone to call up to moan about this and that. If you are ok with this, fine, if you still harbour an attraction for her, forget about it. Move on. She will drive you nuts.
2007-02-01 02:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by paul h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her. If she says no, ask her to define exactly what she does want from you.
She is making very strange comments, and as we all know, women have a REALLY hard time saying what they want in English.
What's the worst that could happen? Not much.
2007-02-01 02:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a fool.
She wants to be "friends" so basically you are dumped as the sex partner. She probably just wants someone that is cooler to her friends.
She wants a new boyfriend (one that she will bang)
And shes keeping you on the hook in case she can't find somone.
She be selfish and you be the USED LEFTOVER FOOL.
Sorry --
2007-02-01 01:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a confused teenager to me. Have no fear, relationshipping gets easier with age.
Having said that, I wouldn't pursue a relationship with this person just yet.
2007-02-01 01:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me she's a complete nutter, she might not want you for the rumpy pumpy side of a relationship, but if you like her, don't let her mess with your head mate, find a new girlfriend, and i bet nut job Will be jealous
2007-02-01 02:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by honey xx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋