he only does it when we discuss things about us. he does it all the time. he say something and then say he didnt mean it like that. when he knows cottonpicking well i know what he means. why is he doing this? let me remind you he only does this when we discuss our relationship.
2007-02-01 01:34:06 · 16 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is something hidden in what he is saying. If he is saying hurtful things then saying he doesn't mean it, I think maybe he does. Otherwise he wouldn't be saying it. We speak what is in our heart and mind. And if he's repeatedly doing it, maybe there's a hint there for you.
Since I don't know exactly what he is saying I don't want to turn something small into something major. I would say to just tell him that these things he is saying is hurtful and if he really means it. Is he angry at you, at himself, at a situation? Talk to him about it and just open up.
There is no reason to be in a relationship with someone who won't talk openly and respectfully.
2007-02-01 01:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by hazyseptember 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Vell he is just using you to suck him off.and to get a big screen you must be no hands and all mouth.Bottom line if this guy is treating you this bad you need to dump his *** guys only treat girls like this because you keep allowing these things to happen therfore he's getting the best of you both ways.He is a person of intrest to you why I don't know but like it or not this guy has another if you don't let go now you will probaly go completely down hill.I'm sorry but it's true leave him now before you really get hurt.
2007-02-01 17:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM, NOR ARE YOU REALLY ANYT
HING TO DO WITH THE PROBLEM. HES DOING ALL THIS TU
RNING AROUND OF HIS ANSWERS BECAUSE HE IS GETTIN
G TIRED OF YOU AND THIS RELATIONSHIP? AND IF YOU QU
ESTION HIM ABOUT IT, HES GOING TO LIE, DENY, AND WIGG
LE HIS WAY OUT OF BEING TRUTHFUL WITH YOU? AND CAN
YOU BE CERTAIN THAT HE DONT HAVE ANOTHER GIRL ON THE SIDE ALREADY? YOU SAID THAT HE TAKES ON THIS BE
HAVIOUR WHEN THE CONVERSATION IS ABOUT YOU AND H
IM, AND YALL RELATIONSHIP? I HOPE THAT YOU DONT MIND
ME SAYING THIS? BECAUSE I FEEL THAT YOU HAVE FELT T
HIS WAY MORE THAN ONE TIME DURING YOUR RELATIONS
HIP? THAT THINGS BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU, JUST ISNT
GOING IN THE SAME DIRECTION ANY MORE. AND YOU ASKS
YOURSELF, WHY DO YOU KEEP HOLDING ONTO HIM, WHE
N YOU KNOW THAT THINGS ARE NOT GOING TO GET BETT
ER? YOU CANT HELP BUT TO FEEL, AND EVEN KNOW, THA
T HE HAS SOMEONE ELSE, OTHER THAN YOU? BUT YET Y
OU DONT HAVE THE STRENGTH OR THE COURAGE TO LET
HIM GO? YOU TRY TO TELL YOURSELF, THAT THE REASON
THAT YOU HOLD ONTO HIM, IS BECAUSE YOU LOVE AND N
EED HIM? BUT DEEP DOWN , YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE L
YING TO YOURSELF. YOU MAYBE ABLE TO LIE TO, AND FO
OL ALOT OF OTHER PEOPLE, BUT YOU CANT DO THIS TO
YOURSELF,
2007-02-01 10:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've gotta guy that wants to be right at everything in your eyes. He wants to be the master of your relationship. Everything good will be because of something he did but all the bad stuff will never be his fault. If his attitude (a childish attitude at that) doesn't change, I don't see your relationship going much further at least not a good relationship.
2007-02-01 09:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys find it hard to express their feelings so they usually end up putting their foot in their mouth (so to speak). Unless he says things to you that are out right rude, try your best not to take what he says to heart. He is trying his best but the words get in the way. If you continue to get upset and analise every thing he says to you the end result could be that he will totally clam up and hold back his feelings for fear of being judged and rediculed. You don't want that to happen. It is best to encourage a guy to express his feelings by first starting to learn to read between the lines of what he was really trying to say to you. This way he will be more comfortable opening up to you. You cannot make him say things to you exactly how you want to hear them. Come on, lighten up, give him a break. Hope you take my advice and I sure hope it helped. My best to you!
2007-02-01 09:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say hes trying to get his way without saying much he may not be comfy talkin bout the relationship and steps in his mouth maybe he is just setting up for something like not taking the relationships as serious as you do
2007-02-01 09:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by angela C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure. Get away now. It'll only get worse. You're much better than that. Happiness is around the Corner. Just not with him!
2007-02-01 09:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he has his mind set in a certain way, he maybe insecure, he may think that he is losing you, there are different reasons bfs flipflop around. Have you asked him in a direct way why does he do that?
2007-02-01 09:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is childish and unsure of what he wants in a relationship. You are the one who has to evaluate your situation. It is time to know in yourself, are you ready for a REAL relationship, or if you still want to play the Field and continue to play his game.
2007-02-01 09:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is what you call a double talker, someone who say things and they don't mean it in short he is a liar no matter what you think thats what he is and will be in the long run, he can be a good politician.
2007-02-01 09:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋