shes a wonderful woman, raised me by herself due to divorce. (though i see my dad often). Lately shes grown depressed, with her father recently dying shes just been a reck.
Anyway from that she feels like her contribution in life is minimal and shes trying to figure out what her purpose is. I try to console her all the time to let her know of her importance and she just doesnt see it.
when she was younger she had dreams of being an interior designer but at the time her father didnt feel women should go to college, thus was not allowed to pursue it. she is now 54 and thinks time is out for her dreams and ambitions.
how can i help her?
what can she do about her dream?
Thank you so much with your help
2007-02-01 01:03:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anthony C 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are a good child for caring so much for your mother. At her age, she might be experiencing some hormonal changes due to menopause. The situation with her father is definitely contributing to that as well. Find a friend who would be willing to get his/her bedroom or any room in their house redecorated. Have them go to her and ask for her help on a couple of things such as color swatches for painting the room and such. Furniture advice and artwork advice too. This should open the creative gates in her mind. Get the gears going, you know. Not only would this help her creatively, but it could be a chance for her to take her mind away from her other problems. Taking on a project such as this is therapeutical and your friend would have a new room. :)
Ater this project, ask if she enjoyed it. If she did, then encourage her to take some classes. It's never too late for school or realizing a dream.Hang in there, you are doing the best you can.
2007-02-01 01:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by zumi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A college has no age limit, and she could pursue her dreams. She maybe just needs some time to deal with her Father passing. Some take it harder than others, and it not something that should be pushed. Does she realize she is depressed and maybe she should see a Dr. and get something for it. Your time is only run out in this life if you allow it too. Good Luck!! Keep standing behind her and things will look up in its due time!!!
2007-02-01 09:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by Niecy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For the moment, you need to reassure her how important she is and how much the the person she is and the things she has done are appreciated. And, of course, tell her how much you love her.
Sheesh! She is only 54. These days, that's still quite young. She potentially has decades left where she could be productive and have fun in any chosen hobby or career. It might be fun for her to get her feet wet by taking some adult education classes at a local community college. She may or may not decide to continue her education, but it would give her a chance to socialize and learn a new skill. Both of which are good for combating depression and raising self esteem. If she is hesitant to go by herself, offer to go with her. It might be a fun experience for you as well.
2007-02-01 09:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by ms_quiltsalot 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's never too late to pursue a dream. My mother (now deceased) raised 4 kids, and when was 42 she started back to college, had to stop and have heart surgery with a valve installed, which set her back for 2 years for recovery. She took up college again at 44 graduated at 49, and then i think it was age discrimination that kept her from pursuing her career. So she began writing books and papers on various social issues (her degree was in sociology), She published many of her works, she also had a second dream and that was womens/mens fashion design.
When she was 56 she designed a bathing suit for women made of leather which she marketed at $900 each and sold hundreds of them throughout the U.S. and Europe.
It's never too late to pursue a dream, encourage your mother to do this.
2007-02-01 09:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're one cool son. ^_^
Look up some colleges. She can take a test to see if she can take the course now. If not, why not review for awhile and pursue her dream to get into the course. Colleges have no age limit, and so does education. Who cares if she graduates a bit late. At least she'll be spending the rest of her life her way, the way she wanted it to be.
Find a college that can help her get what she wants, its never too late to study up for it. ^_~
2007-02-01 09:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by dark_illumination 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bless you! What a wonderful son you are! There is a group called "AARP" for people over 50 years old. If you go to aarp.com and in "search" put in Careers after 50, or education after 50, finding your dream (you'll have your own search ideas) , a list of articles will come up-- all of them geared for people 50+ years of age. Maybe you'll get some clues or ideas here.
2007-02-01 09:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by Cookie Preston 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do some research on schools that teach interior design, get class dates, times, and locations, then approach her and find out if she is still interested in doing this, there is also rel-estate. She just needs a little push and she should be alright. I am sorry for you loss.
2007-02-01 09:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Full college may be to much, maybe she can take some night or online classes on it. Unless she wants to go for a full degree - we should all be allowed to follow our dreams.
You can start by allowing her to help you decorate your place. If you have friends or siblings you could talk into letting her do their places too. Then maybe she can get a job in that field.
2007-02-01 09:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay. you should sit her down and talk to her about it. Tell her how much she means to you and ask her what you can do to help her and see how she could get better. Mabey all she needs is a little bit of help with these hard times. Be her crying shoulder and help her however you can. Be careful not to bring up anything about your dad so that she wont get upset again. Try to get her mind off of it. Good Luck!!!
2007-02-01 09:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by owenbabe48 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Help her look though college brochures. Ask her if there is anything you can do to help her pursue her dream. Good Luck!
2007-02-01 09:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋