My upstairs neighbor of over 3 years is having her 26th birthday tomorrow and I was thinking of doing something very impersonal for her like maybe putting a happy birthday balloon on her doorknob or maybe a greeting card on her car. During a conversation about 6 months ago, I learned that we were the same astrology sign (Aquarius - the sign of friends)
I'm a lot older than her and am in NO WAY trying to "hit on her". We've spoken casually and I've learned (over the 3 yrs) that we have a lot of things in common. I'm always polite and she's always cordial...But I also get the impression that she is a little unsure of me. I'm a friendly person but not overly.
If you were her, would you be okay with an impersonal birthday greeting from me or should I just forget it? As I said, I'm totally NOT trying to hit on her...just want to surprise her that I remembered her birthday.
2007-02-01 01:01:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
In my opinion, I think that it is perfectly fine. I would leave her a baloon and maybe a teddy bear. No flowers though, that could be taken the wrong way. Leave an inpersonal card. That is sweet that you remember and would make me feel very special, why should she not feel that way? Good luck.
2007-02-01 01:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by star 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cards and balloons, no matter how "friend oriented" they are, seem quite personal. If a guy gave me a card, I would definitely
think he might be trying to hit on me. If you really aren't interested in her romantically, if I were you I would just casually tell her happy birthday. You say you get the impression that she is a little unsure of you. To me that means she probably already thinks you may be interested in her. I must say, even though you say you're "totally not trying to hit on her", I sense you may have feelings for her, anyway. In my opinion, strong relationships always have a strong base of friendship. Well, just some food for thought! Good luck in whatever you decide! :)
2007-02-01 02:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by Starscape 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't even think of trying what you're planning to do. Since you said you're not planning on "hitting on her", you might as well give her the happy birthday balloon personally since you only want to let her know you remembered her birthday. Make sure that you show it with the intention that it is only for the sake of friendship or else, she will interpret that as you are trying to court her. Remember, girls are REALLY good at noticing when a man likes her so be careful. I hope this will help you.
2007-02-01 02:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Itachi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A birthday balloon would be nice (nothing with hearts on it, better yet just a plain balloon, any color) with a little note card saying "Just a friendly note from your neighbor" so she knows you only mean friend & neighbor.
Keep being friendly but if you are picking up on uneasy feelings from her then step it back just a little. A wave, a smile and hurry about your way once in awhile so she can see that she is NOT that important to you.
NIce to hear there are nice guys out there !!! : )
Happy Thursday !
2007-02-01 01:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could get her a greeting card, but don't put it on her car. That might come off as a little creepy. You could stick it in her mailbox or slide it under her door. I wouldn't go with the balloon, though, because it feels more planned -- like you're trying to flirt with her. Good luck.
2007-02-01 01:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Balloon would 've been a perfect idea if u were trying to hit on her since ur not then u better stick to card under the door. Because both leaving it on her car and balloon will even confuser her more.
U must be such a nice person to 've thought of it seriously.
2007-02-01 02:36:28 · answer #6 · answered by SMB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stick with a card as it is personal but not overly so...as opposed to the balloon idea. Women tend to get a little uneasy with that course of gifts. Also, I would definitely either give her the card or put it in front of her door - putting it on her car is kinda creepy. Good luck!
2007-02-01 01:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by kimawah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a nice guy you are. I don't see a problem with a friendly card, in the mailbox. If you think she is unsure of you dont make it a real friendly card. dont sign it "love always". lol you know what i mean. I think if you were to put it on her door or on her car she might think your crossing the line trying to get closer to her than what you really are. Unless you have been upstairs in her place. then it would be alright. yea get a card she will get a kick out of it. most of us would....
2007-02-01 01:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should post her a Birthday card because when she gets that it will be a nice surprise for her. keep what you write inside minimal and formal.
If you leave the card on the windscreen of her car of attach a balloon to her door handle, it will seem as if youve thought about what to do for her too much and it might freak her out.
You need to be subtle....not scary.
Good Luck.
2007-02-01 01:11:43 · answer #9 · answered by Flower Power 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're so sweet to be so thoughtful..
But i think it might be best and sweet of you to hand her a birthday card in person or like you said put it on her car. Either way, it's the Thought that counts and I'm sure she'll appreciate it.
2007-02-02 02:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by liza246 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋