i always ask the relationship questions. lol. ok here it goes. me and my ex hang out a lot and last nigth we hung out and i ended up spending the night. well, he's got a girlfriend and i have a new boyfriend and no matter who we're with we always seem like we want to be with each other. it confuses the hell out of me. anyways, we ended up just like messing around, we didn't have sex, but it was pretty damn close. it seems like we always end up in that position, no pun intended. what should i do??? he's like an addiction i can't get rid of no matter how many times i go to rehab. HEEELLLLPPPP!
2007-02-01 00:56:01 · 14 answers · asked by Shakes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i hate the way it ends up. i don't go over there intending to do anything with him. plus, i really like my new boyfriend. it's tearing me up because i don't know what to do. i know it's wrong, but if i could quit him cold turkey i would have. apparently he loves his gf or at least he says so. i haven't been in my relationship long enough to tell yet. my ex and i have dated 4 times before. it's like he can't quit me either. i just feel different when i'm around him than when i'm around any of my other boyfriends. i know everyone says it's wrong and i can't live with myself, but idk. i just can't keep having it happen this way. i try to stay away, but he finds me. i took him away from 2 of his girlfriends now, and the one he's got currently, i really like her. she's nice. i don't get him. if he loves her why spend time with me? him and i haven't had sex before, so it's not like he has anything to crave from me. i just can't figure out what it is about him or me to each of us. i'm cnfsd.
2007-02-01 01:11:00 · update #1
he hasn't gotten any type of sex from me and i haven't gotten any from him so why what is it the we cling to in each other so much??????
2007-02-01 01:13:35 · update #2
You are typical American woman, who is going to get married and later on cheat on their husbands etc etc. I am not surprised by your question. Good luck baby.
2007-02-01 01:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not have sex until your sure that you love him and he's the one. See how he feels and if he still wants to get back together with you then dump ur boyfriend kindly and explain that you really can't love him right now or maybe ever. But before you do ask him to dump HIS girlfriend too so you guys don't end up on the wrong page. Whatever reason you guys broke up for, be cautious about that area because you don't want to break up AGAIN!!!
or. . . . .
You could just tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way and if he doesn't then you should just give up and ignore him because that might hurt you.
2007-02-01 09:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by Packer Fan 101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take some time and figure out exactly who you want to be with: your current boyfriend or your ex?
The best way to avoid a certain "position" is to not even put yourself in a situation where that "position" might even be possilbe!!
If you choose your current boyfriend and you really and truly want to remain loyal to him then you need to cut things off with the ex.
Addicts that continue to roam neighborhoods where they know they can score drugs don't really want to quit!
If you know you will not have the self-control to not fool around when you're with him then don't hang out with him. Don't go to his house. Don't meet him for drinks. Some things in life come with a sacrifice somewhere in the mix. If you really want your current then you are going to have to sacrifice your ex. If you really want to be with your ex then you need to sacrifice your current.
I get the impression that you and your ex were not broken up long before you started dating your current boyfriend....
Boyfriend-hopping is one of the easiest ways to confuse yourself. No matter who broke it off in a relationship each person really needs to take time to grieve that relationship. You shouldn't date ANYONE for at least 6 months after ending a relationship. You will end up trying to fill that hole left in your heart from the last relationship with a new one....but it just doens't work that way.
I call it the "boyfriend-bandaid".....only the size/shape of the bandaid you need to cover the wound left from your previous relationship isn't the same as the s ize/shape of the bandaid your new boyfriend is offering! lol
If it's being alone that scares you (not being in a relationship), I challenge you to try it for 6 months! You'd be surprised at how liberating it is to know that you can stand on your own two feet and not be in a relatonship!
There is no one out there that you need to find to make you complete - that must happen within yourself. You have everything you need - just gotta figure out who you are, what you want, and always always love yourself no matter what!!!
Good luck!
2007-02-01 09:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dorigurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him and see what he wants. you should explain how you feel that you always end up together. If you want to go back to him ask him how he feels about it. If he agrees that is the best then you should dump your current boyfriend and tell him to get rid of his girlfriend and start going out. If he doesn't think it is best then just tell him it would be best to staty away from each other because you don't want to hurt yourself or anyone else (him your boyfriend his girlfriend.) How it works out fine.
2007-02-01 09:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by actresst22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you talking about.. you are confused. How could you be addicted to a person just by experiencing oral sex.. the real addiction starts after it, depends on the way he satisfy you in the game. first experience the complete course, then decide..try both of your boyfriends and stick to the winner..
2007-02-01 09:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by gentle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the more important question is --- why do you keep breaking up with him in the first place???
maybe you need to work on your relationship a bit more so you dont break up to start with --- sit down and talk to your ex ---- find out what you both want from a relationship and go from there --- best wishes
2007-02-01 09:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say u guys should get back 2gether becuz u can't mess around and then say "let's b friends". Your boyfriend and his girlfriend will find out and that will b hell too!
2007-02-01 09:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have communication.
Ask him if he will ever leave his girlfriend? If he says no, he only and will always only want one thing.
It seems like he is thinking of one thing, and even though you may be attracted to him, you are doing something very wrong.
Time to choose.
2007-02-01 08:59:07 · answer #8 · answered by freezie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing you can do... Why not be with the person who you care for? It wont matter who come into your life or goes out your feeling wont change. I think you should fight for what you feel.
2007-02-01 09:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not only for one give love and take love.Love ia worship of God.
2007-02-01 09:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by anubhav_55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋