I heard my parents talking?

Question

I heard them talking about getting a divorce last night. Should I confront them? Please HELP!!!

Answer 1

As their kid, you do have certain rights...and this will directly affect your life. Let them know that you know about their conversation and give them a chance to include you in their decisions up front and fairly.

Answer 2

My brother, sister and I are in our late 20s and early 30s. In October my mother came to me and said that she was moving out and getting an apartment. My brother, sister and I were shocked. It is a very difficult situation for all of us. We have individually all talked with my mom and my dad, one on one. Next week we are planning on meeting with my mom to discuss what has been going on. The whole situation makes me want to cry sometimes.

From my experience, here is what I would recommend. I would talk to one of your parents to see if they were serious. Sometimes spouses threaten leaving as a leverage point in an arguement. (I know my wife and I used that when we were first married.) It is sad that this occurs and hopefully that's all this was in this case.

If they are serious, you have a difficult road ahead of you. I know that is tough to hear, but it is the truth. It is important that you don't keep all of your feelings bottled up.
If you have siblings, make sure you all discuss how you feel.
Depending on how old you are, if you have a significant other, be open and honest with them about how you are feeling. My wife has been incredibly helpful over the last few months because she allows me to get everything out.
Find a friend or other family member that you can confide in.
If you are in school, find a teacher or conselor that you can talk to.
I have spent a lot more time in the last few months praying and I have go to church every week now. If you are religious, take this opportunity to read more scripture and deepen your spirituality. If you aren't religious, find a friend who is and ask them for guidance. It will be weird at first, but religion can help you get through tough times a little easier and make sense out of strange times.

In any case, good luck. I will pray for you and your family.

Answer 3

I know this may sound silly because everyone thinks that books can't help, but here goes...
There is a book by Dr. Laura Schlesinger called, (The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage)
She is a great woman and has helped MANY marriages. Maybe it can help your parents.
Confronting them may make them divorce even faster. Now that you know, they will think it is the right time to do it.
I have seen a few marriages end, and it is always over stupid things. People just don't know how to really talk to each other. Even parents act like little children.
Depending on how old you are, maybe you should force them to sit down and talk it out. Not fight or argue, but TALK. Find out what's REALLY wrong and try to fix it.
I will tell you one think that I know. Many marriages end because women fail to see that men have emotions. We always to to hide them, but we are really very sensitive, and what women say to us can hurt us very deeply.

Please check out the book. It is really good and may help.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Yes definitely tell them you were eavesdropping and heard what they said. i would ask them together and ask if they have done everything possible to save the marriage for your sake. no matter what happens they aren't going to change how much they love you but it will still hurt and be hard. tell them how scared u are and how its hurting u. be honest with them no matter how u feel tell them about it. it may be hard to tell them these things but u are just as involved in this as they are and u have a right to know whats going on. u don't have to know why they want this but what they are going to do. don't let them try to make u choose sides here. get them together and let it all out. good luck sweety u will get through this.

Answer 5

I would wait and not confront them. You will have to be there to understand how it really happened. Maybe they were arguing and when people argue sometimes they say things that they do not mean to say. I will wait if it happpens again don't confront them, but ask in a friendly manner.

Answer 6

I'm sorry you had to hear that and it is your right to talk to them about it.
If you overheard this it is probably very upsetting to you, They should have been more careful about anyone overhearing.
But since you heard them I say yes...Go to them tell them what you heard & how you feel sweety.
I just want to say how sorry I am & keep your chin up sweety, Things will be ok...Your parents love you very much I'm sure and will help you through this.

Answer 7

I know you must be worried about this. But just because people talk about divorce does not necessarily mean that they will do it. Take one of your parents aside - the one you can talk better with - and voice your concerns.

And remember, whatever is happening is between your parents - it has nothing to do with their love for you.

Answer 8

I would first talk to each of them individually to find out their points of view. Then I would bring it up in conversation when all three of you are together, letting them know you are concerned and that it will directly affect you. If they haven't already done so, suggest that they get some counseling first and not give up so easily.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Wow that is so hard. It is worse that not one of my friends still has there parents together. But yes i would confront them. You deserve to know what problems your parents rae having because you are a family. Sorry and goodluck

Answer 10

Try your best to confront them.