he has just started year 1 and i dont want it to be a problem for him he is also very sooky for his age and was wondering if anyone has any advice, hes my eldest so i havnt been through this before
2007-02-01 00:19:35 · 12 answers · asked by pinkz212005 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
there must be something that is making him behave this way! either somebody is hurting him, or maybe he is the type that has bad temper, so try to see what makes him relax and try to keep this method!
a psychologist consultation doesn't hurt! it will help you!
Best of luck with him!
2007-02-01 00:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by mwa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't trip out about it just yet. Starting school is a big transition and he is bound to get in some trouble trying to get used to all the different rules. If the problem persists after a few weeks (and it will take several weeks) then you might want to talk with his teacher about how to handle the change.
On the other hand, if you child is angry and/or violent away from school and this has been a problem in the past then, in an old fashioned manor of speaking, he needs to be punished and maybe even spanked to show that angry and violent is not ok.
If you have come to the point that you've tried everything you can think of then it might be a good idea to talk to you or pediatrician about what steps to take next. Good luck.
2007-02-01 08:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by AmberKortni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would have to ask if you have him on any new allergy medications or anything as there are some that are known to (which i have experienced with my own daughter) to alter a childs personality, attitude, and energy level).
If the answer to that question is no then i would have to go with the idea that children even though they are young and we would maybe never think this to ever be an issue for them but they have stress just the same as we as adults do.
Alot of times the stres that they have is the pressure to make us or themselves happy .. my little girl is a perfectionist but i never noticed that till it was time for school ... and the doctor said that is when it will usually show.
I agree with the others on talking to the teachers and the pediatrician as well but just know that some children, like most adults don't take stress in stride so just try to find other ways of helping him to deal with it ... especially helping him to feel comfortable enough to express just what he is feeling ... to me that was key ... for example my daughter (surprisingly enough) loves meditation and tells me all the time that some child made her so upset today that she had a hard time finding her space but she did it .. and i will say to her well i think that you deserve something that makes you happy to keep that energy positive and then we both eat a big bowl of ice cream....
I'm not saying that meditation will work for your son but i am saying that there is nothing wrong with finding alternatives to medication and such first ... some kids truly do NEED that and others just need someone to help them find a way to express what they are feeling and then an outlet to let it out through.
Hope something i said helps get you closer to finding a solution for your son.
Good Luck
2007-02-01 09:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by annondazmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you will most likely hear the ADD myth, sometimes I think that is just bunk and is another name for no dicipline...so then they drug the kids and life is good...
Kids are just little adults.
Thank about the things that make you angry...frustration, fear, being treated badly....and so on. Anger is a reaction to something...maybe things are not gong so well for him at school. I think you need to talk to his teacher and see if it is school based...or maybe there is something at home that is making him unhappy....recent changes?...
There isn't much info to go on but please before you assume it is somthing earth shattering try to look at the world from his view point and see if there is somethig (may be trouble with the kids at school) that is causing this reaction in him.
my son had some issues like that and I got him invlved in karate, but it could have been anything, and it worked wonders...outlets for frustration are a great way to go. Good luck to you and try to remember he is a person and not everything that he does or feels is your fault!!!!
2007-02-01 08:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My nephew is 6, and has a very quick, bad temper. Unfortunately, his father teases him and just makes it worse. My sister finally took him to a therapist, where he has gotten help with anger management, and it has made a HUGE difference. He still has to work on it a bit, but the difference is like night and day.
Get this taken care of NOW - it will just get worse as he gets older, and tantrums are no longer "cute" once they start really HURTING people (or themselves) when they get mad.
2007-02-01 08:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by gelfling 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at his surroundings...do you get angry a lot? Does his dad or another male figure display anger when he's around? That could be part of it. Or he could just be generally mad. It's not as hard to reason with six year olds as some people think. Try to talk to him indirectly about it...like when you see him get mad, talk to him about the situation and see what he says. You might learn a lot.
2007-02-02 00:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Smooth Criminal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two kids. It is very important that you seek help to get his anger under control. Children learn the coping techniques they will use as teens and adults at this age. If you don't seek help, he will only get worse as he tries to determine his role in your family and in his world.
Please see his pediatrician or a child-psychologist. There is no shame for a parent in asking for help; only shame in denying their child a bright future because their pride gets in the way.
2007-02-01 08:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by BP 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would take him and sit one to one and have a talk with him. Sounds likes he has bottled something up inside that has happened to him. Talking to your son will make a big difference. They just want to be listened to sometimes one to one. I'm talking from experience. It does work.
2007-02-01 16:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by spike377 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him for counsling or to a physciatrist before it gets out of hand.
2007-02-01 08:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by Denny O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call Dr. Phil
2007-02-01 08:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by Lea 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋