i was with my ex for 3 years she really loved me said she wanted to marry me, but we broke up didnt talk much until she got a man.when we finally talked again she said i broke her heart and was mean to me at first but over time now 3 months we been broken up and she got a bf, we talk all the time. she says how she can be herself with me and not him. she also says when i ask her back that he will never hurt her, or leave her. i told i never will i want to prove i changed. how do i know if she still loves me or likes the fact she has 2 guys now.she wasnt that type of girl but when girls get hurt they can change.we do talk like 3 times a day for hours on end. i still love her i told her i do and told her myside of the breakup.if she was hurt that bad i would think she would never want to talk to me again.at first she would tell me all the things he does how good he is but lately its more that hes not all that he is really romantic and always there i think he mite be to soft for her.
2007-02-01 00:11:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
factory girl can you email me so i can ask you something
2007-02-01 00:37:10 · update #1
what exactly is the question?
what do you mean he might be "to soft for her"?
the only thing I can tell you is that she still has an emotional relationship with you. Whether she wants it to become physical ...you didn't give enough info. And I think you couldn't give enough info becauseit sounds like neither of you knows what you want.
2007-02-01 00:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by center of the universe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's stuck between two worlds. She wants to move forward with this new guy but she wants to revisit her past with you because it's familiar. 3 months really isn't long enough to be with someone and have them know you well. Right now, she doesn't know what she wants.
This is probably a rebound guy. There's no way she's over a 3 year relationship in 3 months. It's also not likely that she's over the anger she felt over your breakup.
The only reason I say this is because I've done what she's doing with just about every ex I've ever had. Even if the breakup was horrible, I still ended up talking to my ex and thinking I might want them back. Guess what? I always stayed with the new bf because in the end, the reason me & the ex broke up was valid.
She's talking to you because she's comfortable with you and you know her. This new guy doesn't. In a way, she's self sabotaging herself thinking that if she does, she'll be forced to make a change.
The bottom line here is that if she wanted to be with you, she'd end her relationship ASAP. Sure, she'd hurt the other guy but the longer she sticks around, the harder it would be for her to breakup with him. She'll complain about him because she knows that's what you want to hear and she needs to vent to someone. Basically, I don't think she's playing you. She's creating a no win situation for herself and she's not even aware of it. The most rational thing you can do is to stop talking to her. I know you love her and want her back but right now, as long as she has you to talk to, she's not going to make that choice that you want her to make.
If she doesn't breakup with this other guy (and that's very possible), you're going to be very hurt. Right now, she's not going to make a logical choice because she's way too confused and doesn't know if she should move forward or backwards. Whatever she does now, she'll regret and try to backtrack again. Do yourself a favor and give her time to make a choice. If she's meant to be yours, she'll come back.
Sorry if I'm being harsh, like I said, I've done what she's doing many many times. Maybe I'm wrong about her but from what you're saying, I doubt it. Good luck and I really do hope you two get back together. Sounds like you learned from your mistakes and are willing to change.
2007-02-01 08:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by FactoryGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people are like that what they wanted to tell you or tried to tell you before the break up they wouldn't listen and now they have someone else its easier to tell you because they have nothing to lose and they can tell you exactly what happened and how they felt seeing how you are more apt to completely listen and understand it now that you aren't together.
2007-02-01 08:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a lot of pain in your life, you should hang on to relationships with people who aren't really available for you -- people, in fact, who aren't really being true to the partner they're with.
That's a surefire recipe for suffering and you won't be disappointed.
2007-02-01 08:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by mrrmaid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is in yoour best interrest to move on . She is testing you out to see how much of a hold she still has on you . Move on with your life and find a girl that does respect you for you who you are .
2007-02-01 08:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋