I've just about given up on approaching women. Most of them act like they don't wanna be bothered, and then they wonder why men don't seem to bother with them. It sure would help if they'd atleast try to be somewhat friendly. Maybe that's too much to ask, huh? Given this type of behavior ( on the part of both men and women ), I often wonder how any relationships ever get started.
2007-02-01 00:08:03 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me help you on this one. It is the year 2007. Women are becoming more educated and independent than they used to back in our grandparents day. Even more so than our parents day. They can make their own living and have their own careers. They don't really need a man to be the traditional breadwinner or "hunter" for them anymore. Many women want men for companionship, relationships, and sexual gratification.
Another thing why many women seem to be on guard and keep men at arms distance is that there are a lot of predatory men out there and know the dangers some men can pose. They watch the news. They see reports of killings, rape and domestic violence. Many women when they first meet are concerned you might be a creep that may hurt her. Until you put her at ease in this regard, you have to prove that you are trustworthy.
Some women are standoffish too because like men are looking for Mr. Perfect. You may not be what she is looking for in the attraction department. Just remember this wise old saying, "One woman's dog is another woman's babe".
Take heart and not give up. Last thing you want to do is stop dating all together and die a lonely old man. Rejection happens. When a woman sticks her nose up at you and treats you like a *****, then remember that it is her loss and not yours. Until the last woman on the face of the earth dumps you, then there is always hope you will find someone.
You just got to work on your approach and be the man women will want to get with.
2007-02-01 00:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't help to sort out a problem by making sweeping generalisations, i.e. men are this and women are that etc. This is your observation about certain women you are meeting.
First it's worth saying that its unlikely you are only meeting women who are being standofish because you are a man, ie sexism. So, in which case, they are reacting to YOU personally. Take a look at yourself and ask yourself some questions or close friends who can be honest, about how you are behaving, what signals you are giving out etc. There is something negative there you are doing that needs changing. Watch other people that people find attractive. See what they are doing different. Good luck.
2007-02-01 00:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by Frankie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are so many men so pushy these days? Let's turn your question around. Just because women aren't interested, for the most part, in meeting a guy (you, perhaps) and running off to bed, doesn't mean they are standoffish, it means they are discriminating.
2007-02-08 22:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by pitmanette 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Women are trying to be safe. If you just approach a woman on the street (or a bar). They tend to think you only want one thing. You have to be a friend first. Like the teller at the bank you see every week. Or go to the same check out girl in the grocery store. Even a co-worker. Unless your on a blind date you can't just talk to someone you've never met before and expect fireworks...
Good Luck!
2007-02-01 00:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you might be overdoing the approaching. Don't come over too eager. Your eagerness can be the thing that's pushing them away. Sometimes, it pays to wait to be approached. If for example you make eye contact with a girl and she continues to look back. It doesn't always mean she is interested. She's maybe just making up her mind whether she is or not. If she's interested, give her enough time and space. If she's not, then leave her alone.
2007-02-08 18:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by John M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some women are afraid of perverts and afraid of being rejected. I act standoffish because i don't want to be embarassed by the guy if it turns out its just a sadistic game to make a fool out of me.
2007-02-08 10:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany Rae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just you. Maybe you are approaching them at the wrong times or situations. Maybe you look like a slob or have a hygiene issue.If the situation is right( they aren't trying to work or are having a girls night out.) Most women don't have a problem being approached by a guy whose appearance doesn't arrive 5 minutes before he does and announce "I'm a loser, best ignore me!" Best advice, you are doing something wrong, figure out what it is and eliminate it.
2007-02-01 00:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by B-Rabbit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have this problem, but i've noticed that alot of guys do have it. I'm older than most men that have this problem, but i bathe twice a day, dress well, kinda try to look as good as i can, and don't have a problem.
Where as the younger guys i know, don't really make any effort to care about how they look, smell or whatever.
Behavior is another way of attracting womens attention. I am a gentleman and act like one. I don't show off or try to impress women and basically just act like i do all the time.
2007-02-01 00:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are so many women who have been either physically or mentally abused by men that they put up barriers.
They are afraid to appear vulnerable so they project a toughness that is just a ploy ....a safety mechanism.
If you truly care for this woman then take it slow ...but let her know your interested & won't hurt her.
It will take time to earn her trust but if you really care it will be worth it.
2007-02-01 00:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i have to say the whole game is very difficult! it's a case of he is making eye contact at me, do i want him too, is he after one thing. Oh i don't fancy him what should I do, so you look the other way. Sometimes women come across stand offish because they are actually shy or not very confident in themselves. Or maybe they have just come out of a relationship. Everyone is different and react in different ways.
I was minding my own business dancing in a club when this guy leans his head near mine, and asks me to kiss him, i said no and smiled, he asked again, again i said no, and he asked again, so i pointed to my cheek, he asked again, and I really had to get aggressive and shout NO. he finally got the message and went to harass another poor girl. So unfortunately its guys like these that make which make us get our backs up and make us more defensive to a mans approach!!
2007-02-08 22:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by Eevie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋