I have feelings for my ex-boyfriend. What should I do?

Question

He just got out of a relationship and I still have a lot of feelings for him. I don't know if he feels the same. What should I do?

Answer 1

We're in the same boat. My ex of four years and I broke up a year and six months ago, and up to now i still love him very much and i can't get him off my mind. His pictures are still in my iPod..i always listen to the songs we used to love..i still visit his cousins who are very close to me. Obviously, i haven't moved on yet. Sometimes become bitter and i want to curse love. I mean, you get that feeling that you gave everything yet your everything still isn't enough to make him stay. You tried to be perfect but still you're trying in vain. It's really hard, and you get the big phobia of falling in love again and risk getting hurt again.

My advice? Deal with it. Time heals all the wounds and so should you. You can't rush into moving on, you have to pass through several stages until you could say 'i survived!'. By now im sure you have the mottos 'love sucks', 'love is stupidity' etc....

1.) throw away all his mementos, photos, and eveything that reminds you of him.
2.) Spend more time with your friends and family.
3.) Keep yourself busy.
4.)Avoid listening to mellow music, esp. the songs both of you loved to listen to,
5.) Keep a list of all the bad things he did to you and tack them next to your bed.
6.) Sever all of your communications with him.
7.) Avoid seeing him.
8.)Avoid the places he frequents.
9.)Convince yourself that you don't deserve him.

Remember this:

GOD TAKES AWAY WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER TO GIVE

Answer 2

First feelings are good and help us know what is going on in our bodies. But they also can mislead. eg u see something nice in a store u have no money and u feel like taking it. Does it mean u do it. Methinks No. I think you should first c what made u split in the first place. If its coz hes abusive, drunkard etc then ignore ur feelings and stick to your decision. if it was misunderstandings.. call him talk it over and see what went wrong and make ur decisions based on logic not feelings. And make sure he is separated from his ex or u get into a love triangle.. very confusing. Look at it from a cold business perspective. If he was a business would you go for it. Hope this helps Good luck..

Answer 3

You should wait a few weeks after him getting out of this relationship because you don't want to be his rebound girl...but if you really have feelings for him, let him know.... the worst thing he can say is that he doesn't feel the same way- but at least you will know.

Answer 4

As a Young Person. You got through "flings" like someone does on a Soap Opera. As long as you can respect yourself. And he does the same? Live to love life. Just remember why it ended, in the first place.

Answer 5

I would tell him... Say "I still have feelings for you," and if you want to try and make your relationship work again then tell him... chances are he misses you 2

Answer 6

Call him and talk with him to see if he feels the same

Answer 7

msn him and say howdy it substitute into nce seeing u back.. whats new in ur existence? if he's an *** then merely tell urself that it's time to circulate on and that u will locate better. u suggested that u think of its bcuz u have been youthful.. 4 months doesnt make u lots older... so it mite not substitute issues. merely so u no. if u desire greater help u can merely email me. desire this helped.

Answer 8

Dont come straight out and ask him because he'll think ur desperate get around to asking him

Answer 9

Well since he's not in a relationship I think its safe to tell him how you feel.


And change your name, you're good enough for anyone.

Answer 10

Yieks i'm in the same situation. I havent told him that i still Love him yet, but i know he dtill Loves me, i dunno whatto do maybe the answers to your questions will help