I met this guy in the summer, I feel madly in love with him, trust me this was the real thing! I'm 28 and know when I'm in love ... anyway, we sort of on and off got it on, got it off! haha, but neither of us really told each other how we felt, it went on like this, and games were played etc. I ended up being a total idiot one night and ruined everything, but in fairness he wasn't being so nice to me ... I tried to apologise but he just ignored me, I have'nt seen him for months but think about him every minute of every day, it's clear that's it's over and I've tried everything to get my mind off him, but I can't .... IT'S DRIVING ME CRAZY ... Please help?
2007-01-31 23:36:43 · 25 answers · asked by Sunray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're in the same boat. My ex of four years and I broke up a year and six months ago, and up to now i still love him very much and i can't get him off my mind. His pictures are still in my iPod..i always listen to the songs we used to love..i still visit his cousins who are very close to me. Obviously, i haven't moved on yet. Sometimes become bitter and i want to curse love. I mean, you get that feeling that you gave everything yet your everything still isn't enough to make him stay. You tried to be perfect but still you're trying in vain. It's really hard, and you get the big phobia of falling in love again and risk getting hurt again.
My advice? Deal with it. Time heals all the wounds and so should you. You can't rush into moving on, you have to pass through several stages until you could say 'i survived!'. By now im sure you have the mottos 'love sucks', 'love is stupidity' etc....
1.) throw away all his mementos, photos, and eveything that reminds you of him.
2.) Spend more time with your friends and family.
3.) Keep yourself busy.
4.)Avoid listening to mellow music, esp. the songs both of you loved to listen to,
5.) Keep a list of all the bad things he did to you and tack them next to your bed.
6.) Sever all of your communications with him.
7.) Avoid seeing him.
8.)Avoid the places he frequents.
9.)Convince yourself that you don't deserve him.
Remember this:
GOD TAKES AWAY WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER TO GIVE
2007-02-01 03:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refer to Article 99 , Pact 65 Sector 4B Column 9 Row 01A line 5 of the Insane In Love
2007-02-01 07:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lancelot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but as someone who has been on the recieving end of 'games' I have no sympathy for you and best you can hope for is that you learn a lesson from this and maybe you can move on and treat the next special person that comes into your life the right way.
2007-02-01 07:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something else to fill your time, start socialising a bit more if you can. Basically you haven't truly accepted that it's over - work on thinking about all the annoying bad things in the relationship, maybe?
2007-02-01 07:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by cuddles_gb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very wise person once told me the best way to get over an
involvement besides time was to get involved with someone
else as quickly as possible.. It works.
2007-02-01 07:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i was in the same place that you arenow i had the same problem and i cudn't get him out of my head even though i loved him so much , for me i runed it ;just like you and i tryed talking to him and he ignored me to ;just like you lol anyway i loved him so much one day i just went up to him and started crying at the same time i was talking ; and said that i loved him and that i was sorry for screwing up and he forgive me and a year on were still together ;hope this helps
2007-02-01 07:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by teri c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey babe!
if you really like him..there is no way you can get him over..but he will slowly fade off from ur mind.
try to have more social activities. know more friends through churches(if you are a christian?) or to get to know your friends' friends?
im going through this too.
so i know how you feel, but i think what we can do now is to concentrate on other things more. really no point thinking of him anymore. try to think about his bad side?
that can make you dislike him!
2007-02-01 07:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by minty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
28..! and still acting like a love sick teenager...ahhhh! thats nice... you need some more experience - get out there asap - and find more guys - there is plenty out there gagging for a bit of your loving...
2007-02-01 07:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to mix with other people amd find somebody else. Maybe that would help.
2007-02-01 07:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by pellmell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time will heal it eventually, but in the meantime, go out and find someone else and have a bit of fun!
2007-02-01 07:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋