Why do women love to nag about the smallest things?

Question

My roomate nags about the dumbest things and she's getting annoying. Why do women enjoy nagging?

Answer 1

Nagging



When someone just won't let up



Nag: verb to annoy, badger, bend someone's ear, berate, breathe down someone's neck, worry, harrass, hassle, henpeck, pester, plague, provoke, scold, torment; noun a person, especially a woman, who nags



Nagging is a term used almost exclusively by men to describe women.

Most women deny they nag. They see themselves as reminding the males in their lives to do the things that must be done: household chores, taking their medication, fixing broken things and picking up their mess. Some nagging is considered constructive. Where would many men be without a woman in their lives cajoling them not to drink too much beer and eat too much fast food and, if they can't stop, to make sure they exercise and take regular cholesterol tests? Nagging might even, at certain times, keep them alive.

If men nag, however, that's viewed very differently by society. Men are not naggers. They're assertive, they're leaders, and invariably they're passing on their wisdom--and gently reminding women of the path to take if they happen to forget along the way. Sure, they criticize, find fault, moan and complain, but it's always for the woman's benefit. The repetition of their advice, like "Read the map before you set off! How many times must I tell you?" and "Can't you make more of an effort with how you look when my friends come round?" shows admirable persistence and, above all, shows that they care.

Women, similarly, feel that nagging shows that they care, but men rarely see it in the same light. A woman will chide a man about throwing wet towels on the bed, peeling off his socks and leaving them all around the house, and not remembering to take out the garbage. She knows she's being irritating, but believes the way to get through to a man is by repeating, over and over, the same instructions until they one day, hopefully, sink in. She feels the things she's complaining about are based on truth so, while she knows she's being annoying, she feels justified in continuing. A woman's female friends won't see her as nagging either--they'll see the man as lazy or hard to handle and feel nothing but sympathy for his long-suffering partner.

"The Man Song," a comedy song penned by Sean Morley and reproduced thousands of times over the Internet, was an instant hit when released. Women love it because it says that nagging can sometimes yield results; that is, men understand who's boss. Men love it because it says something they've perhaps always, secretly, known too. One of the verses starts:



The sooner you'll learn who's boss around here,

the sooner you can give me my orders dear . . .

Cause I'm head-honcho around here . . .

but it's all in my head . . .



But usually, when a woman starts repeating her orders, the male brain hears only one thing: nagging. Like a dripping tap, nagging wears away at his soul and can gradually build a simmering resentment. Men everywhere put nagging at the top of the list of their pet hates. In the USA alone, there are more than two thousand cases a year of men murdering their wives and claiming that their nagging drove them to it. In Hong Kong a husband who hit his wife on the head with a hammer, causing her brain damage, was given a reduced jail term by a judge who said he had been driven to violence by nagging.

Answer 2

Make that appointment for Counseling first thing. It's a good thing that you both share the feelings of wanting to be with each other and are willing to work through your issues. Your lifestyle is your business but I would leave threesomes for single people, too many times it hurts relationships, unless of course you are both good with it , but in your case I think it was not a good thing for you, Communication is the biggie, it's the wall that has to come down, a couple should be able to sit and calmly and intelligently discuss issues without nagging, shouting or walking out. something to work on, As for counseling, progress can only be made if you both can be candid ( that means totally open ) in the sessions, true feelings must come out and they must be expressed fully, no hedging, lying or being vague, it's a tall order, and more so for your hubby, but not impossible, I wish you both much success, happiness and love in your future together, your Marriage is salvageable for sure.

Answer 3

no as a girl i dont thinking nagging gets anything done..

i don't think i tend to nag....at least i dont' think so ..

i try hard not to do that type of thing.. if i want something done.. i'll usually just go about and do it myself..

if someone is nagging me to do something i'l usually just put it on the back burner till they leave me alone :)

Answer 4

A different view of the world, us guys are more interested in the wider environment than girlies. Therefore smaller things are more important to girls than, say, Football in South America...

Answer 5

in answer to your question some men nag over the dumest of things also it goes both ways

Answer 6

Why do men enjoy leaving wet towels on the bed, shoes in awkward places or wearing the same pair of boxers for 3-4 days?!?!?


hehe :)

Answer 7

Most not all Men are untidy.... I know!
Or she enjoys the pleasure of annoying you.
Men think when women repeat a sentence its Nagging.
It is not it is just Reassuring.

Answer 8

yes there is nothing you can do to change the size of it. Nagging wont make it bigger

Answer 9

Maybe those things are not small to those women. Remember that men and women often have different priorities.

Answer 10

Because all the thousands of small things you jacks do, get HUGELY annoying, it builds up inside us to be one big BOMB!