Back in 2002, I had a relationship with a girl, that last only few months because I moved overseas. We keep in contact by phone, e-mail, and sms. Although I know there is no chance for us, I still felt so much in love with her, and I believed she also. Few times we talked about BF/GF, she always said she has no BF. I still loved her so much until around mid 2006, when I knew a girl. 2 months back I went steady with her, and I told my ex about it. Then yesterday my ex told me that actually she has a BF since 2003. She will never say why she did not tell me. I feel cheated. Meaning for almost 3 years I love her sooo deeply, but actually she has someone there. I know technically she is not obliged to tell me about her BF, but I still feel hurt. Question:
1) Is it normal for me to feel cheated and hurt? Mind you that I love her no more, and my current GF is way better than her, and I love my GF very much
2) Is what my ex did to me 'right' or 'wrong'? Will u do teh same to your ex?
2007-01-31 22:59:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lies do hurt, especially from someone who you call a friend. I have never stayed friends with my ex boyfriends. I feel that its just weird and uncomfortable. It is normal to feel hurt, but make sure you don't dwell on it too much, let it go. Best wishes.
2007-01-31 23:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude, it's normal to feel cheated and hurt. Back then, you still had feelings for her and she should tell you that she had a boyfriend while you were away. She shouldn't lead you on and give you miss signals about she hadn't got a boyfriend when she actually has, and give you a feeling that you can still be with her.
I feel that your ex's doing is wrong. If I were her, I wouldn't lead someone on and I would feel that I'm obligated to tell you the truth.
Anyway, it's good that you've found someone better. I wouldn't be in a serious relationship with someone who can't even tell me the truth.
2007-01-31 23:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Bobby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is perfectly normal to feel cheated and hurt in this situation. You cared for this girl, and found out that she was lying to you the entire time.
It is very wrong for her to have done what she did to you. I feel that everyone should be told the truth, especially where the heart is concerned. And no I would never do that to my current GF, nor have I ever done it to any of my ex's
2007-01-31 23:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is rong to have to live suspecting that you are being cheated on or hurt. It's just not fair, you have human rights, find yourself a new man and start a new life. It feels great!
2007-01-31 23:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel cheated.But maybe she had certain circumstances that she could not tell you.Well forget everything and forgive her.
2007-01-31 23:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right she dint have to tell you, but have u thought she mite have just said it so she didn't hurt you by telling you, and then when you mention you have a new partner that it mite have been easier for you to get over her
2007-01-31 23:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by lealea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right, but hey don't let it bother you any more you have got better.
2007-01-31 23:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by bette69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal.
2007-01-31 23:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Ilovetheworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will actually not u hurt my ex heart. She do wat best 4 u
2007-01-31 23:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by veether 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋