I am a gal of 17. A frn of mine is in love wid me. I don't love him but I just see him as a frn. I like him but not as alover. He is actually a bit fat. he is giant and I am tiny as compared to him. My other frns tease me wid his name and I don't like it. I cannot tell him anything cos he is my good frn and helps me in times. Pls tell me wat shall I do?
2007-01-31 22:52:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is only one thing: be honest.
2007-01-31 22:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mütterchen Frost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r teased because he is a little fat.Let me tell u physical appearence can be changed with time but what really matters is the heart.His big struture is not a good reason to avoid him.Imagine if u see him after a few years slim and smart then wont u repent.Just accept him as he is as u get true love only once in life.And as u are tiny then just wear high heels they are fashion yaar.Good luck
2007-01-31 23:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by cutiepie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi messy, I donno ur name. anyways
U are in a situation where u have to use ur mind. U have to ask few questions to urself. Stop bothering abt the world orelse u will be left with nothing in ur hand.
Did u, anytime, felt that u liked him for something. Did u feel that u have affection and feelings for him. Do u like him talking to other girls infront of u. Are you willing to spend ur life with him?. Do u think he will take gud care of his wife. etc. Think in terms of this. Relate ur future with him. If you find "yes" to most of the questions then i think u are already in love with him. If its "no" then u go to ur gud frnd , sit and discuss this issue. U have to be polite,soothing and firm at the same time. Tell him openly ur feelings. leave the rest to him. If he is really a gud frnd then he will continue ur frndship irrespective of wht hpnd. If he is a true lover then he should respect ur feeling and shld care for ur future and happiness.
These all require maturity in thinking. Do not be hasty in decision making. BE very CAREFUL. Because if u dont know wht ur feelings are and wht u want then GOD only can help.
Finally, do not go by physical appearance but the heart, one shld have an uncondintional loving heart for his/her lover. If only that is stoping u from loving him then u tell this to him and ask him to shud few kilos of his weight. A true lover would definelty do that.
Anyways, i wish u ALL THE BEST. be wise in ur decisions so that u dont repent later.
Take care.bye
2007-01-31 23:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont bother abt the others if u like him as a frn continue frndship or else u can go still 4ward
2007-01-31 22:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-28 23:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you think he is a nice person but you like the relationship you have now and wouldn't replace it for anything in the world. Tell him you love him, but only as a friend, nothim more.
2007-01-31 23:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ma'am.......LOVE is just a step ahead of FRNDSHIP........
at one-end u don't accept him as a lover bcoz "He is actually a bit fat. he is giant and I am tiny as compared to him"(yr wordings),
and on the other hand u have accepted him as a gud frnd.
y r u so discriminating..........?
Now the Answer:
just tell him about the qualities which u want in yr Lover, & the gap between his traits & yr desired.Give him some time to change n match yr dreams.
After dat u can think wat u hav to do.......
2007-01-31 23:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by ashuatjaipur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were your friends, they wouldn't tease you if they know you don't like it first off. If he is your friend, continue to be his friend and don't let him think you don't want to be with him cause he is overweight. Many thin people aren't worth being with, size shouldn't matter. But if you are just friends, you should be able to sit him down and tell him you like him just as a friend.
2007-02-01 13:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing u can do is let him know as soon as possible, coz evry ticking minute u r letting him fall more in love with u.. so b bold n tell him in a way that won't hurt.. truth hurts but if he really is as good a friend then he will realise..
2007-02-01 01:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by tonal syndrome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about ure freindship. tell him u wanna be good freinds with him. tell him u have no other feelings for him, be honest to him. its okay that u dont love him , but do respect his love for you.
make sure u dont hurt his selfrespect stating about his appearance and physique. be freinds with him, talk to him as a freind. he can also be a good freind of yours. i think he is a eligible buddy (a best freind) for you. thats after all ure choice.
2007-02-01 03:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is your good frd then tell him all your prob & make him understand that all this thing are hurting you. only he can help you in this matter if he mentain a good friendly relationship(ask this much of help from your best frd).i am sure he will help you .have patiant.
2007-01-31 23:01:03 · answer #11 · answered by mithai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋