Could u kindly throw some light on this?
Cause, this man, I am with and whom I have been broken up with twice - once cause of some other girl
2nd cause he could not accept me when I told him about my past., and in this case, We did not speak for 2 years, and he never really wished me on my birthdays, however, when he was in town he did try and make sure he bumps into me to clear stuff up, but I was busy dodging him...
Anyhow 2 yrs later, he's back in my life, and for the enth time, we confessed our love to each other.....
However, everyone is telling me that I can do better, and everyone is telling me to move on.
I am feeling almost stuck in this situation, And I know he makes me feel good at times, but some things of him annoy me, and he can bore me at times, but I still love this guy......
And now, I can’t understand myself, and I hardly know why.......
Also, I am kind of scared that he will do the same thing again, and another fear of mine is that, when I need him
2007-01-31 22:12:54 · 9 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And now, I can’t understand myself, and I hardly know why.......
Also, I am kind of scared that he will do the same thing again, and another fear of mine is that, when I need him the next time I can’t really bank on the fact if he will actually be there.
Please help…………. Advice Appreciated and needed.
2007-01-31 22:17:39 · update #1
Well that's what you call LOVE my dear. Everyone will tell you to move on and forget him, but in reality is that he is your soul! It took me more than 5 years to really cut all ties with the one whom i love. Actually, its been 2 months only since I've been strong enough to really break all communication. I was forced by "authority"/loved ones and circumstances to do so! I went through depression and all states but by God's grace I'm still alive and surviving without him, and my love keep growing for him daily. God has given you the strength to bear much more than you think, but its really really hard. You will never be able to stop loving him but you dont have to be with him to love him even if it would have been desirable that you were with him.
If you can give him a chance then go ahead, and i know that you will since you love him! But, if he hurts you again, then it better dawn on you that you have to find a solution and the only truth is to break off the relationship, sorry for being so blunt!
Love transcends this material plane my dear. How did u live those 2 years? Hell, i know but try to live my dear that's all i can say. Live with his memories, wishes and dreams. You dont need to be with him to continue to love him unconditionally. But, if he still loves you and is willing to share the rest of his life with you then fantastic, you guys are soulmates and are just meant to be together and i think that you will overcome all obstacles and be together!Hope that it helps. God bless you and all the best!
2007-01-31 22:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by Pearl_beach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ypu know, I'm in the same situation! (I'm from Russai, by the way) In fact there are many way out of this! First you have to decide whether you're ready to cope with all this till the rest of tour life, as you know men never change, well may be a little. But I think you should try to speak to him, find out what he wants from the relationships, and what he wants from you. Just think you're a nice girl and don't you think you deserve better????? You deserve to be loved, not just love, but to be loved by somebody else! It's very important! Just take a few steps back and see whether it's worth taking ar may be it's better to stop. It'll hurt a lot! IK know, believe me, but in the end you'll feel much better. You noticed probably that you're very nervious lately, it's not good! relationships should bring jiy and satisfaction, but not pain!
Think calmly and see may it's better if you'lll find someone who'll love you?
2007-01-31 22:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Alena P 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think of the main telling area of this question is "I had continually been drawn to her husband in spite of the undeniable fact that it grew to become into only an allure and that i never acted on it because of the fact of my pal and because he grew to become into needless to say unavailable and additionally I never quite theory he felt the comparable way." If this have been my superb pal (pal, acquaintance, worst enemy), i could be asserting "he's appropriate, yet MARRIED. era. i'm only no longer that style of individual." yet seems such as you have had your attractions on him for a while and the only genuine ingredient conserving you lower back grew to become into which you theory he wasn't drawn to you. a individual of integrity would not take calls from HIM. would not settle for invites from HIM. could never get to the factor the place he ought to sense the wonderful to admit any thoughts for you. you're supposedly his spouse's superb pal, no longer his. i'm hoping the spouse exhibits out and dumps you the two. She merits so a lot greater valuable.
2016-11-23 19:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you met him you were able to live without him and if he dies you will be able to live without him.He is no good for you ,you know it and friends tell you.So what is your problem.If you want to be misereble for the rest of your life it is up to you.When in love we know there are bad and good times.However if a relationship only brings what is bad then its better done away with.You are even scared of what might happen.So are you happy always worrying that he might leave you.Please dont waste your time.
2007-01-31 22:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through the same thing. It was very hard to let him go but I knew for my physical and mental well being I had to. I think of him occassionally but know that I am better off without him.
2007-01-31 22:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you love him, right? well, just accept the fact that when you love, you really get hurt. yeah, it's hard... but that's just the way love goes. you know, it's actually a mystery why people still fall in love after getting hurt. but i think it is the way of finding true love. besides, it's true. you love, you get hurt. you love, you get hurt. it just happens a lot of times. but there will come a time, after all those painful moments, you'll see it was worth it. you will love, and will NOT get hurt. don't worry. you're not alone. =)
2007-01-31 22:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am NOW undergoing the same situation like yours...honestly...even i don't know how to cope right now...i do love him so much & im giving evrything to him & even i went to this country coz of him...but things are not going smoothly right now after 4 months of being together after our break-up...
just now, im not the same girl i used to be...even my friends r noticing it...they r not used to me being lyk dis...
im sorry, but ill be watching sum answers on this question also...
i think, all i can right now is just do as ur heart is telling u...there is no wrong decision coz we all r thinking bout wat to decide b4 we go for it!
2007-01-31 22:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by an_angel_in_d_sky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems you are a matching and compatible couple. You like what you get from him and he likes you from what he gets from you. Good luck!
2007-01-31 22:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys were made to love and are meant to be....
2007-01-31 22:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by codedfeelins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋