Ours was an arranged match. We have been engaged for a month but he doesn't talk much. His family says he is reserved and takes time to open up. I have asked him directly but he says he has no problem. I am very outgoing. Always thought my partner would be the romantic type. Everythin else is amazin bout th proposal..Don't knw wt to do :(?
2007-01-31 21:57:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He doesn't want to go out alone with me...He seems nervous...So, i can meet him only with his family. Also, now since he is far away only thru' mails and phone
2007-01-31 22:23:55 · update #1
maybe he is just like this, but the more open you are and the more he trusts you maybe he will catch up to you. i know couples that have a happy marraige and one is beyond chatty and the other is quiet and doesn't say much. good luck
2007-01-31 22:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're content with an arranged marriage, then you're going to have to accept that your spouse isn't going to be who you always dreamed of, but who you hope you can fall in love with or at the very least tolerate. It's only been about a month right? You need to give it time. His family said it, so believe it! He's shy! It doesn't mean that he won't be romantic for you later, but believe me I can tell you as a girl from North America, romance is over rated. Love is better.
2007-01-31 22:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all relationships, it takes time for both personalities to complement each other. The ease will come from spending time together and knowing each other better. It's really normal for one person to be outgoing and the other to be more introspective, there's defitnely a way to work together and meet your needs.
A marriage is a partnership on all levels, and with time he will realize that opening up to you, reaching out emotionally, and making the extra effort to communicate will benefit him as well. He's going to be much happier when you are happy!
I would think this is something that could become magical with time and care, good luck to you!
2007-01-31 22:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by irunwithbulls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your fiance. Fiancee is used for women. I don't know when your wedding is arranged for but maybe you can hold it off as long as possible. How can you know what this man is like if he doesnt talk much to you? Men don't change you know, if he doesnt seem to like you now it won't get better after the wedding! I'm afraid most people on here won't be able to relate to your problem, because most people wouldnt entertain an arranged match. I suggest you discuss your fears with your mother and hope she has your true interests at heart.
2007-01-31 22:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is very closed and reserved too. He does not talk to much, specially if he is around people whom he doesn't´t know. We´ve had some fights about it, because people tent to think we have problems as a couple when they see us, because he makes this face (facial expression) of dislike that is very evident.
I know he love me, because he shows it to me when we are alone or when surrounded by close friends. Sometimes is like I am with 2 different guys. We have talked about it and pretty much got to an understanding, but it´s been hard.
However, our relationship was not arranged. We are together because we decided it by ourselves. I believe that love can be grown, so with patience and tender and time, it could grow up.
I hope it works. If not, at least it wouldn´t be non of your faults... after all... you didn´t arranged it yourselves.
2007-02-01 03:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lana Prezino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are out going and trying to develop a relationship in an arranged situation which must be hard but imagine how difficult it must be for him if he is a shy quiet person anyway.
My advice is to try and establish a friendship on which to build a relationship. You know mutual respect admiration etc. Go on some getting to know you dates, take an interest in things he is interested in. And try and involve him in something you are passionate about.
My partner is very quiet but once I got to know him I could not resist. They say it is the quiet ones you have to watch! Hope everything works out for the best and you lead a happy and fulfilled life!
2007-01-31 22:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by tigger_pooh_on_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just a quiet guy. If you are going along with an arranged marriage then I guess you will have to put up with a guy that doesnt seem to have much in common with you. Can you get out of it?
2007-01-31 22:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some blokes are just quiet, my husband is I just leave him too it. You have to decide if it is what you want from your life though. If the marriage is going to go ahead anyway maybe join some evening classes & get on with your life anyway you never know it might just work out when the actual wedding is out of the way. Hope it works out for you.
2007-01-31 22:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Raych C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be hard with an arranged marriage, maybe over time he will open up to you more
Maybe write him a letter and ask him, and in the letter write that he can write you back the answer, that he need say it to you face to face..........maybe he dosent really understand what you want
2007-01-31 22:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by mary L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi pooja sounds like same here. my fiance is like u and i am like ur fiancee.
i don't talk with him that much but he still love me.
it arranged as well. i am reserved as well but i don't think its a problem to be reserved. and i am romantic as well.
i talk with my fiance on phone every saturday thats sit but he does send me text and he does want to talk with me but as i said i am reserved i don't talk with him that much.
and my fiance is like u he is very outgoing and his sense of humour is good as well especially then me.
u don't have to do anything just keep it as it is.
it will gonna be fine after marriage it will take some time.
so just wait.
best of luck
take care.
2007-02-01 00:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by stranger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋