my brother is 43 years old, he is lazy, he makes a mess, whatever he drops on the floor he doesn,t pick up, what can l do ? p.s. my brother is slow,
2007-01-31 21:53:26 · 13 answers · asked by cats a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
by indicating your brother is slow does this mean he is mentally challenged? Retarded? Or what?
If this 43 year old man is just LAZY---and thinks you are his maid make it very clear to him---that you are not the maid.
What on earth are you doing living with your 43 yr old brother anyway? Unless of course the 43 yr old is mentally handicapped. If he is not----you're old enough to live on your own and leave your brother to his own mess making and cleaning up.
2007-01-31 22:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between slow and stupid. Stop picking up after him. Let it be a battle of wills. Live with the mess for a while. Maybe he'll learn you aren't gonna bottle feed him anymore.
2007-01-31 21:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say slow, do you mean mentally slow? If that is the case someone needs to teach him to clean up after himself. If he knows better, then you need to tell him what a slob he is and that you are not going to be coming around him if he doesn't straighten up.. Good luck!
2007-01-31 22:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by willy-wonka 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of you needs to move out.
When you say slow, do you mean disabled?
It sounds like he has used his disability to get his way. If he is mentally capable of doing these chores, then you need to quit waiting on him, and retrain as you would a child that is spoiled rotten. Same situation, different age.
If it isn't a disability, won't change, and can do things on his own, then kick is butt out!
2007-01-31 22:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bigdog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that your brother is mentally challenged? I think it depends on how "challenged" he is. I think lots of love and good phrase for when he does something right could help. Don't yell or show your aggravation...I'd rather a messy person than a sad person any day. If he can't help himself, and repetition doesn't help... all you can do is love him.
2007-01-31 21:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by aprildin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur bro is 43 how old r u ? dont u have ur own family and life .
if u like to stay together then ur choice and have to adjust to his habbits or move on if u cant adjust .
is there more behind this then meets the eye here ?
2007-01-31 22:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by sas35353535 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just keep on telling him that that is not good for a person aging like that to do such a thing because that is not the manner of a person aging like that to do it. by that it might make him realize the bad thing that he is doing.
2007-02-04 20:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by leachim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he born with a deficiency? i wonder if anyone has taught him to be responsible for his actions?
You may think he is slow and if he is... It can be cured.
Teaching him to be responsible is a good place to start.
2007-01-31 22:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by saynhope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he does that speek to him and tell him what problem you have and what he has to improve if he dosen't improve. be strict and tell him that he has to pay you monthly because you are messing the house and i have no time to clean your crap. and i you dont pay kick him out. if its both your house then live with it.....
2007-01-31 22:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by deadman12319 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WahoO your brother is old
2007-01-31 21:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lancelot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋