i and my bf hve been in a relship for 8 months now...n hes pretty serious bout me...recently he gifted me a diamond pendant.he wants to marry me.i love him very much,n i knwo noones ever gonna love me as much he loves me.but i dont c his career in a gud shape..i am studyin a lot n i know i m gonna get a gud job..while he isnt sure wether he wanna do a bussiness or work.he is rite now workin in a factory as a worker..hes frm a dcent family...he stays in uk while i m in india....shud i commit to him seriously?
2007-01-31 21:50:04 · 19 answers · asked by Sneha S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey stop pin pointing my mistakes in my language!!....i got 90% in my english exam!!..its just that i am typing..and while typin i m used to teh chat language...concentrate on my problem plzz!!
2007-01-31 22:03:36 · update #1
one more prob..hes sweet..n he wud earn a lot..i mean hes hard workin.but i hve this mindset dat only managers and general managers jobs r gr8..even now hes earnin quite well...hes not poor or anythin..his family is a well to do family..but he works as a worker n dats wats bothering me
2007-01-31 22:07:17 · update #2
Talk to him about it, tell him he needs to start setting his goals higher so you can have a nice home and possibly support your children if thats what you are thinking about doing. If you become ill he won't be able to support the family on his own. You don't need to marry him till you feel he is going to be able to support you.
2007-01-31 21:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my suggestion is u guys should talk with eachother regarding this ... u should put forward ur worries telling him that u luv him dearestly but with his current lack of interest about his career can create problem in future when u r having family ... and for that he should become serious and think constructively about his own career .. and give his some time limit (lets say a year time) to prove that he is really taking serious efforts to achieve that.
2007-02-01 05:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, wht u guys r havin is a long distance relationship....n tht is completely different from living 24/7, 365 with the same person........ these relationships r gud till u marry...n thn evrythng crashes....n dnt thnk tht no1 can not love u more thn ths guy....in my opinion stop all ths b4 it bcoms dificult for u to let go. n as u hav said tht he has no furture ....think wht will hapn whn u plan to start a family....think long term n thn take ur decision.
2007-02-01 05:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by misteriousmaiden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want perfection, love god. no one is perfect and no one has a market cornered on success. Im sure you will hear countless stories from reliatives about making a life when they started out with nothing. thats the major reason why marriage exists, so people can make a better life together than they have apart. follow your heart and not your wallet.
2007-02-01 05:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, pls it depends on how u make the d/f b/w your needs and your wants.The food for the heart is love.With love all bareers can be penetrated.The point is we always turn to fail b/f we ever start.Pls as far as i know the only time we stop failing is when we succeed.If u ask me i would really insist u ask yourself honestly if u really do love him.If you do then belief me no condition is permanent.that is how i feel here.
2007-02-01 05:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by T E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, I don't think you should judge him by his career choice. You should be supportive. If he doesn't think that college is for him, then be supportive of that. If, eventually, he decides to advance his education so he can pursue a better career, then be supportive.
Don't put down a man for making an honest living.
2007-02-01 08:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by Abby C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know either of you, but I can tell you that you can spend your life with a relatively poor man and have a wonderful time and you could marry for money and live in hell, and vice verse.
Good luck.
2007-02-01 05:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ted T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah girl...love doesn't come often...marry him!
If you're so worried about his future and you really think you can do better....AND if English is your first language, you better shape that up first before you go hunting for a guy who'll do better then your current boyfriend.
Wish you luck.
2007-02-01 05:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by babbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsure about marriage or relationship with this man then dont commit to him.
You make several points in your query about him, this alone means you really dont want to be with him.
Mr right will come along one day and its not the man your with now.
2007-02-09 00:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you in the right age for marriage? if not, then 1st you both can help each other first in getting a good career/stable jobs for yourselves before entering into a serious relationship such as marriage.. yes, you both love each other so much but love can't feed your grumbling stomachs in time when you are both jobless. got what i mean? :-)
you are both lucky finding true love with each other...:-) wish it'll lasts a lifetime...goodluck.
2007-02-01 05:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by an_angel_in_d_sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋