Attention all Men: What do you think of independent sucessful women?

Question

Is it a turn off or a turn on?

Answer 1

i think a successful woman encourages and pushes a man to do better,as long as she keeps her feminine side a priority.

Answer 2

There is no such thing as an independent woman. We all need other people all the time. I think it is a selfish egotistical way to look at life. None of us would be where we are without the love and support of others. When a woman tells me she is independent I pass her the check. I think that is something women tell themselves so they can use men for sex instead of being used.

Answer 3

Good to an extent. I could not stand if the woman was making more money than I was as I would feel inferior (personal thing).

Also it would suck if it was a competition as to who could/would be more successful. The less talk and competitiveness about work - the better

BUT I also dislike the lazy gold-digger types that want everything from you but aren't prepared to work for it. Either way, to me there's no such thing as a marriage without a renup

Answer 4

If she is in control of her emotions and doesnt throw that fact - being independant & successful.. on the face of all the men she meets.. well it surely is better than a completely dependant bella!

Answer 5

Hi Jayce,

I am a woman so hope you don't mind but think I can give you the answers you are looking for?. Also sorry this is so long!

I agree with easy to some extent and because women do teach men to be the best that they can be, but there are a lot of men who don't want women to push them to be anything and in my experiences, guys don't see it in the way women do - they only want the woman to sugesst from time to time but no more than that.
I used to be a suit-woman and career orientated. This of course, attracted men in suits who were also career minded. I think that people respect you more if you appear to be more in control of your life and earning good money than if you are poor and stuck in poverty. However, saying this, I would say that most men are also afraid of sucessful women and because they often fear that she is too clever and independent and has all of the answers even though she doesn't. Modern men still like a woman to express a certain amount of positive vulnerability and that is hard for some women to grasp. Not all women are approachable for instance and successful ones are the least on the whole.

I think it takes very selfless men to want to marry and love a successful woman and because more selfish and insecure ones tend to feel threatened by a woman with power. A lot of divorces take place in marriages where there is too much money and too much success and because people become so focused upon their careers. Very few people who are successful are truly happy, but there are a great many who aren't. Being successful and independent is what all women should strive to be as long as it doesn't force women to become too equal to their men.

According to the majority of men I have ever met, a woman can be successful at so many things but as long as it doesn't take them away from their relationships it is okay and they want somone who isn't in a time-consuming career. Men want women who are around a lot even if they don't appear to need them. There is nothing wrong in wanting success, just as long as it is balanced with domesticity for most stable guys. Unstable guys won't tolerate a woman who is successful as simple as that and they are dysfunctional people.

I think most men find what frightens them a turn on and yes, they are attracted to successful women because they also feel challenged by them. But, they don't necessarily want long term future's with them either and the majority prefer more homely women for marriage and contentment. Men are still such a long way off the idea of successful women and many, are terrified of women who are in charge of their destiny. I am suprised by the response so far on here from men because many women who are successful hardly ever find men who want a woman to be so unless they are all just saying they would?. Teachers, cooks and doctors are preffered by guys the most but women who are lawyers, models, financial clerks and more hard-nosed careers are the least appealing to most guys.

If there was ever a good example of successful women a man would choose as their wife it would be nigella lawson or Fern Britton. They are both successful but very homley too.

Hope this has answered your question but I do tell the truth.

Answer 6

Turn on. Someone who can take me out for dinner, who doesn't need me to buy her car, pay for education it's all good. Don't get me wrong, I have a very good paying job, I am just sick of the gold diggers I meet.

Answer 7

Who cares what guys think? As long as you're happy with your independence and your success, that's all that matters.

Answer 8

A big Turn On.

Answer 9

i think it can be good to an extent. its when the woman gets arrogant and starts to act like she runs the world that it gets to being a total turnoff.

Answer 10

Major TURN-ON... Usually they are so sexually frustrated after a day at work, that usually the door is barely closed... :D