I never thought my son would be a whiner, but for the past 4 months, he is constantly whining about everything. He whines if he dont get his way, he whines if his little cousin is bothering him, he whines and gets mad if he is drinking a sippy cup and no juice is coming out of it.
I was hoping this whining and temper would wear off but he is still doing it. I know they go through different stages where thats all they do but it seems like my son is constantly doing that unless he is entertained by something or watching tv. Anyone have any advice please!!!??
2007-01-31 20:29:50 · 7 answers · asked by K!M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Thanks for the advice everyone!
2007-01-31 20:42:40 · update #1
Because he can! Ok - with our youngest, we told him: I can't understand you when you use that whiney voice. Please use your big boy (or normal) voice so I can figure out what you want.
Do you or your partner whine? My darling nieces (16, 14 and 11) all whine. Why? Because their Dad (who I love dearly) whines when he doesn't get what he wants, is tired or whatever. Kids imitate what the hear and see - they are our little doubles!
Take a long cool look at how you and your husband (or his cousin) talks and see if there's something you could change about the way you communicate. Sing little positive songs eg If you chance to see a frown, do not let it stay, quickly turn it upside down and smile that frown away...... :)
He can become the sunshine of your life easily.....
2007-01-31 20:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by cottagencountry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 year old daughter and it hasn't stopped yet! It has eased off a little as she knows when to give up now.
It could be a phase, or it could be signs of teething.
My daughters gums would constantly irritate her even between teeth breaking through.... from the pressure on her gums.
If it is a phase, I just speak to my daughter in a clam voice telling her that it is not ok for her to crack it all the time, and that it will do her no good as she will not be getting her way if that is how she is going to act.
It is sinking in.
Now, though she still whines at times, she knows when she can get away with it, and when she shouldn't bother. I can actually see the thought process on her face when she decides it is not worth it!!!
Have patience. It will pass........ hopefully!
2007-01-31 20:38:05 · answer #2 · answered by originalpuppycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17 months, he doesn't have a very sophisticated communication system and therefore uses whining because he knows how to do it. My daughter went through that too. Unfortunately, my mother gives in to the whining and we live with her so even after 2.5 years, Chloe still whines. I ignore the whining or tell her that I cannot understand her unless she uses her normal voice.
Unfortunately, there are no perfect answers in parenting and no two kids or parents are alike. You can try using the things that I use, but there is no guarantee that they will work for you.
Your best bet is to do what you feel will work for your son. Following your "gut" is probably the best thing that you can do. It sounds like you are concerned about your son and really care about what is best for him. Take some time to think about his personality and what works to get him to stop other problem behaviors. Usually if it works for one thing, it will work for other things with the same kid.
I wish you the best of luck and the patience of a saint because the whining can make you feel like your going to snap at any moment.
2007-01-31 20:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a baby in an adult world, and whilst it would be great if they came out fluent in our languages, they have to learn how to communicate.
Until they have got the hang of emotions and words, the only options are screaming fits, tantrums or good old fashioned whining.
You'll probably find that as his vocabulary improves his whining will decrease, as long as you use that 'I can't hear whiney talk' thing that works great with children :)
2007-01-31 20:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like hes been spoiled... Either way its the age and if you continue to put up with it.... Its only going to get worse... the terriable 2s are right around the cornor so you need to put a stop to it before hand... if hes pitchin a fit dont give him what he wants until he stops and asks in whatever proper way he can ask......... He needs toys that interest him and as far as his cousin, hes probably jealous and just feels the need to gain attention.......
Children crave, thrive and grow on attention good attention... not drop everything and do what they want attention... do that and you end up with a brat
good luck
2007-01-31 21:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by jingles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't respond favorably. Don't give him what he's whining for just to shut him up or you'll be teaching him how to be a whiner. When he whines simply say "Sweetie, you don't have to whine to get what you want. Tell me. Show me. Mama loves you and I want you to be happy, not sad. Please don't whine you make Mama feel sad." Keep on it. Kids need to feel valued and respected.
2007-01-31 20:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by itry007 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
terrible 2's.
2007-01-31 21:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋