why does my male cat pee on my husbands side of the bed?

Question

It seems to occur whenever my husband upsets me

Answer 1

Hi there...if this is something that recently developed, first consider all the possibilities such as:
- changes with litter brands
- location of the litter box isn't private enough
- some cats like to have one box to defecate and another to urinate
- cleanliness (some cats are very finicky and prefer a super clean box)
- as a general rule there should be one litter box for each cat plus one extra as a back up
- kittens who are over 5-7 months can become sexually mature and urine spray as well as defecate inappropriately to mark territory.
- senior cats develop age-related disorders such as chronic renal failure (CRF), hyperthyroidism, diabetes, etc.

If all these have been ruled out, there's a chance that your cat may have developed another underlying medical problem such as something as simple as a lower urinary tract disorder: http://www.marvistavet.com/html/body_feline_lower_urinary_tract_dis.html which can contribute to accidents outside of the box. Cats will associate pain while using box and change their habits as a result.

Here's an article about why cats inappropriately soil outside their litter box by Cornell University College of Veterinary Medicine: http://www.vet.cornell.edu/fhc/brochures/Housesoiling.html

House soiling is the most common behavior problem reported by cat owners. It includes urination and/or defecation outside the litter box, as well as urine spraying.

Why do cats eliminate outside of the litter box?
One common misconception is that cats soil in inappropriate places for revenge. It is tempting to conclude, "He defecated on the living room carpet to punish me for leaving him for the weekend." But this kind of calculation requires sophisticated cognitive abilities that cats aren't believed to possess. Furthermore, this conclusion assumes that cats view their urine and feces as distasteful, when in fact they do not. It is only we humans who view it that way.

Medical Problems
So why do cats urinate or defecate on your bed or carpet? Medical problems are one possibility. Inflammation of the urinary tract may cause painful or frequent urination, inability to urinate, bloody urine, and crying during urination. An affected cat is likely to eliminate outside the litter box if he comes to associate the box with painful urination, or if he has an increased urgency to urinate. In addition, kidney, liver, and thyroid diseases often lead to increased drinking and urination. Inflammation of the colon or rectum, intestinal tract tumors, intestinal parasites, and other gastrointestinal conditions may cause painful defecation, increased frequency or urgency to defecate, and decreased control of defecation. Age-related diseases that interfere with a cat's mobility (for example, arthritis, nervous system disorders, or muscular diseases), or with his cognitive functions can also influence his ability to get to the litter box in time. In short, any medical condition that interferes with a cat's normal elimination behavior can lead to house soiling.

Litter Box Aversions
Behavioral problems, such as litter box aversions, inappropriate site preferences, or urine spraying can also lead to house soiling. An aversion implies that there is something about the litter box that your cat finds unsavory. It could be the box, the litter, the location of the box, or all three.

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Answer 2

Your little man just wants daddy to know who the boss REALLY is. If your husband can't learn to be nice to you he better learn to like sleeping in cat pee! Cat's never give up on a mission especially when they are guarding their favorite people. Also, I think if your husband wants him to stop he should spend more quality time with the little guy. Say he walks by and see's the cat laying down sleeping... just have him lightly and softly pet him. That little bit of affection during a peaceful time will help the little guy know that your husband respects him. Cats demand respect at all times and will apparently pee where you sleep if they don't get it. Obviously by your husband upsetting you... he is disrespecting the cat!

Answer 3

My cat pees on my husband's clothes if he leaves them on the floor. I think its just a territory thing where hes trying to say he should be the only male in the house. Just wash the bedding really well to completely remove the smell, so he won't be as likely to pee there again.

Answer 4

If your cat was the "man" of the house before your husband came on the scene, it's a territorial thing. If it's something that's started recently, then it's your cat's showing that he doesn't appreciate the way your man is treating you. Lots of laundry and lots of febreeze will do the trick. Best of luck.

Answer 5

Your cat is strictly a "Mommy's baby", and he's trying to protect you in any way he knows how. This cat appears to NOT like your husband and doesn't want him anywhere around you. It's a jealousy and protective behavior. Launder your bedding real well, and get some "Nature's Miracle Cleaner & Deodorizer for cats"--this is an enzyme cleaner/deodorizer that works wonders. Treat the area 2 or 3 times. Good luck with this.

Answer 6

Oh its a territory thing maybe because your cat has known you longer than your husband has, he doesn't like him upsetting you. So he upsets him back.

Answer 7

The cat is making a critical comment about your husband's behavior towards you.

Answer 8

He doesn't like to see you upset and it's his way of having some kind of say about the situation. He's sensitive enough to pick up the emotional tone of the household, and it affects him too. Smart cat...

Answer 9

It's a power thing. The cat can tell who upset you and is punishing him. Too bad they can't find all the people that send out my bills.

Answer 10

He is trying to mark with pheromones that say all will be ok. Try feliway diffuser in the bedroom, this will make kitty less stressed by your argument/discussion. cats are very sensitive, and it could be stressing him... and he is protective of you.