CAn you think of some ways to relieve stress and cope with my problems...?

Question

My mum is currently hospitalised and I dun even know if she will survive, not to be pessimistic but life is unpredictable. I have only seen her once out of the whole week as my exams are coming up and I am now in charge of the housework and can't sleep till at least 12 am. My relatives are all critisising me for behind my backs for not visiting my mum often and today I just saw her and she looked so fragile. I simply cannot take much stress any longer. Can you give me some ways to cope and deal with this stressful situatuion please?

Answer 1

Im so sorry about your mother, but there are several ways to deal with it. While my mother was in hospital for a big suregery and i had my final exams, i would just shut myself in my room and listen to music and study. During my breaks, i would grab 2 things that made me the happiest, sipping coke, while reading an Archie Comic cuddeled up in bed. Do something that makes you happy, like a little thing, you wont believe how much better it makes you feel.
Take little walks outside, like in your garden or your compound or in a nearby park. it always relaxed me.
I used to cry so much because my mother was in so much pain, but dont think about that. Just talk to her eevryday and dont even let the thought enter in your mind 'what if she dosnt make it'. dont even think about that!!!!
If you have a pet animal, keep close to it and snuggle up with it, animals are great companions.
Make a timetable for each day. I used to write how many hours i will allote to which subject, how many minutes for a break, and how many minutes for a wlak. Take frequent breaks from studying, but not long ones! You will feel so happy about how organized you are!!!
And about your relatives, dont listen to them! because they have no idea what you are going through!! be strong and focused and think of the best always!!

Answer 2

Stress Management is the ability to maintain control when situations, people, and events make excessive demands.What you can do to manage your stress? What are some strategies?

Look around
See if there really is something you can change or control in the situation Learn how to best relax yourself
Meditation and breathing exercises have been proven to be very effective in controlling stress. Practice clearing your mind of disturbing thoughts.
Remove yourself from the stressful situation
Give yourself a break if only for a few moments daily Set realistic goals for yourself
Reduce the number of events going on in your life and you may reduce the circuit overload
Don't sweat the small stuff
Try to prioritize a few truly important things and let the rest slide Don't overwhelm yourself
by fretting about your entire workload. Handle each task as it comes, or selectively deal with matters in some priority
Selectively change the way you react,
but not too much at one time. Focus on one troublesome thing and manage your reactions to it/him/her Change the way you see things
Learn to recognize stress for what it is. Increase your body's feedback and make stress self-regulating
Avoid extreme reactions;
Why hate when a little dislike will do? Why generate anxiety when you can be nervous? Why rage when anger will do the job? Why be depressed when you can just be sad? Do something for others
to help get your mind off your self
Get enough sleep
Lack of rest just aggravates stress Work off stress
with physical activity, whether it's jogging, tennis, gardening
Avoid self-medication or escape
Alcohol and drugs can mask stress. They don't help deal with the problems Develop a thick skin
The bottom line of stress management is "I upset myself"

Try to "use" stress
If you can't fight what's bothering you and you can't flee from it, flow with it and try to use it in a productive way

Try to be positive
Give yourself messages as to how well you can cope rather than how horrible everything is going to be. "Stress can actually help memory, provided it is short-term and not too severe. Stress causes more glucose to be delivered to the brain, which makes more energy available to neurons. This, in turn, enhances memory formation and retrieval. On the other hand, if stress is prolonged, it can impede the glucose delivery and disrupt memory."

Answer 3

Am sorry about your Mum & I totally agree with "Clastophobic"s idea. You should also spend alot of time outdoors cos the fresh air really helps.
Those relatives of yours should be ignored cos if they dont understand wot you're going thru, then they're not worth wasting time on.
Stay around those you are comfortable with,cos a little talking always helps.Someone that will listen to what you have to say, no matter how dumb or stupid it might sound.Or someone that will hold you or hug just to make you feel good. You can get a friend to study with, that way you wont get carried away thinking about your problems. Goodluck!!!!!

Answer 4

Been there. First, screw the relatives. second, hard as it is, see Mum as often as possible, and say what you need to say in case she dies. Harsh, but true. Third, you are doing fine. There IS NO easier way to cope or deal with this. It sucks. Nothing anyone can do to make it suck less. Good luck babe, hang tough. And, {harsh once again}...Make sure Mum has a will. If the worst happens, those "relatives" of yours, will cause you more stress than you can imagine....trust me.

Answer 5

Physically, you have to stroll a mile to forget your troubles and weary heart talking to Jesus along the way that He will carry the burden for you. Mentally jot down your emotional strees then visit it the next week. Knowing that you are not alone, relieves you a lot. Join fellowships.

Answer 6

the main thing that matters in your heart is your mom of coarse, right? so go spend this confused time with her. Llet some of your other fam do the house-work a bit. As far as the shortage of sleep goes.We all know the govenor of california has only slept 4hrs/night, all his life. My personal opinion on people talking about me is wether its good OR bad at least their paying attention. Which could only mean your the important one in the situation to begin with...............hope that helped

Answer 7

There is great information on stress management and how to reduce your stress at ( http://www.reducingstress.net )

Good Luck

Answer 8

well make time for your mom ask your realatives to help u with house hold responsibilities so u can focus on school work and your studies and get time with ur mom and tell them they dont need to complain and talk about u behind ur back it aint right and be more supportive and helpful and be there more

Answer 9

Write your feelings down on paper it helps to vent & its not harmful to anyone.