My sister had a still birth yesterday, and the baby couldn't survive. It was her first child. What should I tell her or write on my sympathy card? I have never been in that situation before
Please help me, this is serious
2007-01-31 19:50:21 · 15 answers · asked by magy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I had a friend who had a stillborn miscarriage. All you can really do is be there for her and try not to bring it up too much it's a really sensitive subject but at the same time let her know that you will be there for her if she needs somebody to talk to about it. Tell her you will symphathize with her.
2007-01-31 19:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by jasmyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had still born twins. There is NOTHING you can say to make it better. Time will help but the pain will always be there.
Just tell her you love her and be there for her. Do anything she needs help with or just sit on the phone and let her cry. The grief is horible and so hard to handle. She feels so empty and nothing can fill that void.
Its been 2 years and i still write my babies letters, cards, and poems, I put them in a scrap book. I go to the grave sight and talk to them a few times a week and on thier birthday and holidays to remind them that mommy loves them.
She should join a support group or atleast get someone that can help her work thru these feelings. I am so sorry for her loss and yours.
2007-02-01 05:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In spite of this sad situation, I think understanding of her sorrow should help, but do not try to be compassionate.
I would not write a card but, would go to see her instead and tell her that if this was not to be this time, there will surely be another occasion when it will be successful.
Most importantly, she should check that this was a mishap and that noting else lies behind it medically.
Good luck and deepest sympathy.
2007-02-01 04:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry...There's not much you can do....but let her know your there for her, if she wants to talk, etc....She will probably want space...Just let her know her sister is there for her and Loves her. Try not to let there be that awkward silence in the room...If u have to turn the radio on low to have something going..Best wishes to everyone
2007-02-01 03:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by Do I know you? ya right LoL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her your there for her if she wants to walk or talk or cry or scream...the most important thing you can do is let her know, you are there for her...whatever it is she needs, you'll help. Let her know that the pain will pass but only in time...time heals all things...just as a gentle spring rain washes away the winter and allows the flowers and trees to bloom, so will time gently wash her pain away a little at a time.
2007-02-01 04:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by dicedicerose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bless your sisters heart. There are alot to be said. Just let her know that you are there for her and that you love her.
2007-02-01 03:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by lovie12346 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm terribly sorry... that must have been pretty hard. Just pour your true, un-changed emotions out and let her know that you're always there for her. (That's what I would do anyway)
2007-02-01 03:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♫!♫♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her that sometimes things don't go as we expect them to and that there are things we wish we could change and make better, but can't.
Tell her then that the one thing that she can rely on to be constant is your love and support for her.
Tell her you know that it's difficult for her and that you love her.
2007-02-01 04:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by kai 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
say what is in your heart and that you want to be there for her and let her talk if she needs to just tell her you love that she is your sister and want to protect her and do anything for her especialy be there for her for as long as it takes
2007-02-01 04:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by lorie v 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you love and your sorry it happened but you will be there for her whenever she needs you
2007-02-01 03:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by carpathian1248 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋