The relationship with my bf of a month.... It's filled with double standards. Do you agree?
Example 1: Lately he's been having some issues at his work and said he's not ready to talk about it. I respect that and told him that I'm here if he's ever ready to talkt. Meanwhile, I got sick. It's nothing major so I didn't want to worry him, as he already got some issues to worry about, and really rather not talk about it. But he was extremely upset when I told him I didn't want to talk to him about my condition. I feel that I am giving him space for his problem. Why can he give me some space for mine?
Example 2: He said he will be busy for a week around end of Feb with his work and probably will not have time to see me. I said OK and also told him that I will have time like that in April due to my work. He was extremely upset saying that he felt like I was retorting. I thought I'd share my schedule.
Things like this happens all the time between us. Am I not being reasonable?
2007-01-31 19:29:23 · 9 answers · asked by Sweetie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
U are reasonable, but that is the mistake u are making. Boys dump reasonable and good girls, and settle for unreasonable, demanding, agressive, bad girls. U appear to be accomodating all the time, that is bad, he may feel u are his sister or mother. Treat your bf as bf, agressively and meanly, even though he has problems of his own, u too pile him with your problems. Unfortunately, the world is like this.
2007-01-31 19:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel nothing wrong with the guy. Due to historical dominance of male s,this kind of attitude is normal from men.
Now you've to take a decision whether your love is greater than these small issues or thses issues bother you so much that want to break the relation. If yes, move out.
2007-01-31 19:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by ramesh c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to hear you problems. Even though he is not ready to tell you what`s going on, he`ll tell you sooner or later. Just open up and let him in. And sometimes he will need time and there will come a time when you will need time. Double standards? Don`t complicate things, just let go and let it happen. Love is a beautiful thing, just love.
2007-01-31 19:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Agatha T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has some control issues. I think if you want to work this out, tell him the truth on how you feel. If it doesn't get better, than move on.
2007-01-31 19:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Raven Jr. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him... hes supid and unreasonable... not you... hes actin like a kid... ask him to grow up and tell him u have a life of your own.. and u can only give wht u get... if he still doesnt understand.. dump him for someone better
2007-01-31 19:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by curious!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're reasonable and that he's REALLY insecure and immature.
2007-01-31 19:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my man pulls this crap with me all the time, i always just call him out on it.
2007-01-31 19:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating on you.
2007-01-31 19:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by hotmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave
2007-01-31 19:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋