My daughter is 15. I think the fact that there are so many crazy people out there has made me a bit over protective. My wife and I are divorced but I have continual contact with our daughter.
I know at her age, she is somewhat hard to reach but I want her to understand that I love her and I only want to protect her from the sick people out there.
I had a conversation with her the other day, which now I am regretting. She was home from school after two days of being ill. There are 3 phones in the house, her phone was busy for over 4 hours so I could not get through. I dialled her mobilephone, no answer. I dialed the other home phone, no answer. I then called her mother and explained to her that all phones were not being answered and that only her phone was busy for over 4 hours.
When I called again, later that evening, I was furious with my daughter for not answering the phones. I regret the conversation but I was worried. How can I get her to understand?
2007-01-31 19:23:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You can never worry too much about your children!
You are clearly a loving father and I am sure that your daughter will come to realise that you only only shouted because you love her.
Stop worrying about this...I didn't have a dad to worry about me like this when I was 15, so your daughter is lucky that you are there to care for her :)
2007-01-31 21:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids! Because that's what they are - children. Self centred, egotistical and unable to comprehend the horrible world we live in. I wouldn't beat yourself up over it. I'd apologise if you thought you were over the top, explain that you want her to answer the phone when it rings, even if she has to put her friends on hold for a moment. And move on.
She might explain that she was in the middle of an intense conversation, etc etc but she should have called you back. Your number would have come up on her phone.
If this is the extent of your problem, you're lucky, believe it or not. I have a fourteen year old, a good girl, but I'm in a hell of a mess too, at the moment with her. They'll all get through it. I hope.
2007-01-31 19:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be happy either if my daughter was home sick and was talking on the phone for four hours! She obviously wasn't sick. She's old enough to understand why you were worried. You tried to call her for many hours, no answer and one phone is busy. I would have thought that the phone was off the hook, she had gotten terribly ill, tried to call 911 and was possibly in the hospital. Teenagers don't think anything bad will ever happen to them, so they don't understand when parents worry about them. These circumstances would have gotten any parent very worried and upset. If you lost your temper with your daughter, then apologize for the way you handled it, but you expect her to be considerate for her parents. Tell her you love her. She shouldn't be allowed to talk on the phone when she's home sick, unless it's to talk to you and her mother. You're a very caring father, she's a lucky girl! Good Luck!
2007-02-01 01:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to realise teenage girls get wrapped up in their own world and girls can talk on the phone for hours. She probably was in her room and didn't here the other ones ring. You need to apologise and tell her you worry about her and you will try to be more calm in the future. She is 15 and it is not to long till she will be out in the real world. She will need the experience that comes with freedom to be able to cope with out you. Have more trust and let her go a little
2007-01-31 19:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are perfectly justified in being angry at her for not contacting you the best way to help her understand is to explain the stories of Nattlie Halloway and other girls like her, tell her that you have her best interest at heart. Thanks for acutally worrying about your daughter. You do have to be careful not to become TOO controlling though
And no you're not worring too much, if I were you I'd start picking out what I wanted to threaten her boyfriends with.
2007-01-31 19:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by Graham S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At her age she is not worried that you may be concerned about her. She doesn't understand that she just wants to have fun. It is completely normal. Getting angry will only make her mad at you and not talk to you more. The best way to get her to talk to you and understand where you are coming from is to be honest with her and tell her your concerns without yelling.
2007-01-31 19:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by jasmyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting furious will not help. You need to talk to her about the creeps in this world. If you feel your daughter isn't safe still, get your ex-wife caller-ID.
2007-01-31 19:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Desert Rose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain that you were very worried about her and don't yell or accuse her of anything. She may have just took the phone off the hook or had it turned off so not to disturb her since she was sick.
2007-01-31 19:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by carpathian1248 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is going to be a hard one. but i think you should sit down and just explain it to her how you felt. and if she pitches and attitude let her she will one day understand why you do what you and thank you. and i do think you where in the right for being furious.
2007-01-31 19:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by chad_27292 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 year olds dont want to talk to dad, they want to talk to friends. Can't you remember being a teen?
2007-01-31 19:32:25 · answer #10 · answered by graphix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋