He is happily married for 14 years and came to India to take his family back to US. He was a classmate of my wife who has two great kids and they had been in email contact for one year and I found a passionate love letter written by my wife to him but not sent. She says how she felt security love and affetion when they met in a resort on her suggestion. This letter was written 3 days before his departure at 4AM. He even visited us with his family and I was introduced to him. I wonder what he could have done to make my wife write such a passionate loveletter which says how she loves and needs him a lot and begs him not to forget her. That guy is a family man and god fearing as I understand it from my wife. She says she wrote it in a fit of fantacy. Do women write love letters to every classmate they happen to meet or whoever offers emotional support? Could he have done something to get her while she has been so nice to me all the while. What is it he gains by it as I don't see any?
2007-01-31 19:03:59 · 7 answers · asked by havah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She said her friend was in love with her but couln't express it during her college days. And she chose me over half a dozen close contestants and also against her parental wishes. When she sided with her parents on some issues, I felt bad and our marriage hit the rocks more than once. While all subsided and we are picking up our pieces I found this letter and she had been sleeping with me before and after this? I don't know what to do now as she is sorry and I am hurt. She could have shown the courtesy to tell me to get out of her life before she fell in love or even after. She says she never had any idea of leaving me.
2007-01-31 19:21:40 · update #1
Stop blaming him. SHE is the one who wrote the letter not him. SHE is the one who wants him. Did you find anything from him? No. Your wife has feelings for this man, she is begging him not to forget HER. He probably did the right thing and told her no. You should be upset with HER not him. Plus you did mention emotional support.... maybe you just aren't paying enough attention to her. She needs to be made feel special. Maybe she found in him the stuff she was lacking from you. You need to stop being in denial buddy and take a good look at yourself and your wife. And she why SHE felt the need to write to another man and not YOU.
2007-01-31 19:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by darlin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are reading way to deep into this my friend. Take a relaxation pill and meditate for a while. Even though it is a little weird your wife still has the letter for you to find...it still doesn't mean anything it was a long time ago and nostalgia is not always what it is cracked up to be. do you beleive me?
2007-01-31 19:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by jcorr004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling for this issue, it one thing to fantasize about another person, but to write it down and put in on paper. That is boring on adultery. Even if she has not committed the act, just by writing it down and expressing how she feels is bad enough. Not to mention how it would make you feel as her husband. God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-01-31 19:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by 1TON 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to say... its possible that your wife had a mjor crush on him while they were classmates.
if the guy doesnt know about it then he can be considered innocent.
problem lies with your wife though... with your dicovery of this love letter it seems that there might be a cloud of doubt hanging over your wife's head... you dont know what she's saying is true.
2007-01-31 19:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by klao8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife might have had a crush on him when she was his classmate...... otherwise she wont have done it to any other class mate.
Look....no-one has to do anything special to make someone fall in love with him or her.......love comes naturally......so my point of view is that he CAN be innocent.....until you find out that he is also interested towards your wife.....like if you overhear a call or find love letters that he has written to your wife.
And ya.... if you suspect something going on.....there's this tv show named "CHEATERS"...which i see...you can contact them....this is their site..
http://www.cheaters.com
N ya you dont have to do it if you dont want to.
2007-01-31 19:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Moy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it & move ahead. These are life's mystery ,which are difficult to comprehend.
But if it happens again,you need to be firm & cautious.
2007-01-31 19:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by ramesh c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants his lula in her chola
2007-01-31 19:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by joe h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋