Is giving 0-R-A-L serious or not ?

Question

Im just starting to see a guy and we're casual right now.
We did it one time and he now says we should only do 0-r-al until we're closer.
But he says we're casual right now.
Im confused but I dont want anything serious with him right now but I can see myself bringing up the issue in a few months when I m ready.
If we just fool around and do 0-r-a-l is that as serious as doing IT ?

Answer 1

This all depends on what you want from this.

Oral is just as serious as regular sex in that it is just as intimate, however you can do it as a casual thing if you are both getting mutual gratification from it and you are comfortable with it.

Everyone on here is saying he is using you...By both doing it you might be using each other...not many people on this site seem to understand that women can use men too.

Also if he was only interested in using you, than he would probably be trying to have full sex with you too and he isnt..you have to ask yourself why?

If you are happy to be casual I say go for it. My relationship with my boyfrind started out very casual and 2 years on we are still going strong.

If you ask yourself how emotionally linked you are to this guy that should help. If he could say 'no more' tomorrow and it wouldnt hurt you then I dont see a problem. In every relationship you learn something and grow stronger...he might not be 'the one' but you may learn something from the experience.

Do what feels right...dont be influenced by people on the net saying he is using you....they dont know him or his motives and they dont know you either.

Answer 2

Well you shouldn't do something if you feel isn't right or isn't as you say "casual" I was with this guy for a while and before we even knew our names we were all over eachother and you know now I know that's not a good way to go into a frienship or relationship. You should be straight forward and tell him you know what if this is causal then we shouldn't do any sexual things, making out is great and is good but beyong that, well then that's just not causal, that's just serious. Before you decide to do anything serious with this guy think of what you want first, because what he wants can wait till your ready. If he then doesn't agree then you'll know that he was just interested in you know what. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Sweetie, despite what Bill Clinton said--ask someone older--oral sex is having sex. I believe it takes even more of a commitment than vaginal sex so is more serious. If you're casual and he wants to take it slow yet he's telling you that he wants oral sex, he's a creep. I bet it's one sided too. You doing him. He's not doing you. So that makes him a selfish, self-centered creep. Besides, you can't trust him, he's not willing to be exclusive so how do you know where that thing has been? A caring man doesn't ask for oral sex. He doesn't expect it as his due. He enjoys it, yes, but to demand it is just selfish beyond words. You decide when and if you're going to put someone's d*** in your mouth.

Answer 4

Oral is pretty serious!! Especially if you don't use condoms cuz many people don't. We should say Oral Sex vs Oral cuz it is SEX & Unprotected sex is "UNPROTECTED" SEX!

I think this should be more of an act that more serious couple should share....you know...like marriage. I think this is a treat if anything and again...you shouldn't give the goods to everyone or the treats to everyone ya know!?

I am not saying I haven't done oral...I am just saying to use this concept would be wise cuz to me I think people are too frivolous w/this stuff. I am stingy w/kisses. People do it too often n w/too many people. It's pretty passionate and invasive...you can't put a condom on your mouth & imagine how much oral a person may or may not have given to the next....w/o a condom! Ugh!

It sounds to me he either doesn't know much about it himself to know that ORAL is serious....or he is tryin to pull a fast one on ya!

Best Wishes!

Answer 5

jus casual and not serious and you do what?? You don kno where he's been and you what? You are joking right? You need to be checked out by your doc jus to make sure you haven't caught nothing!! Only fools fool around the way you are. Where's your head when your mouth gets busy girlfriend? Any sexual contact is for serious relationships. PLEASE!!

Answer 6

"He say's, he say's" The heck with what he say's! How about you saying "How do you get more serious than having memories always of this guys *ick in your mouth"? You will always remember ANY sexual relations with anyone, so do you want to think of his penis in your mouth when you are married to someone else and have children that will ask what is "casual sex" and "is it OK"? Keep sexuality at bay enjoy the personality of the person and be glad you waited for the special one to marry before entering into acts that will forever be in your mind.

Answer 7

Any form of sex is serious and oral is a form of sex if he is using you for head then tell the guy to f-off nobody deserves that treatment. If he doesn't want to do anything serious then oral sex is out of the question too see what he says to that. I bet he just wants head because he is scared your too young which is most likely true and he doesn't want to be father.

Answer 8

Sharing your body in an intimate way (oral) is serious and you shouldn't do this with someone who isn't interested in being serious with you. You might be exposing yourself to sexually transmitted diseases and not even know it (STD's are everywhere these days). Don't have oral sex with this boy/man he doesn't deserve you. Protect yourself and protect the women you one day want to become.

Answer 9

i sure hope you made sure his medical papers are clean from sexually transmitted diseases ! YOU don't want those germs in your body !
oral is very serious even though we see it often on the internet and on TV but those people are in danger of many bad things all for the sake of money and notoriety.
That's not healthy mentally for you !
If you adore this guy and he pleases you first
and you know his medical papers show he's CLEAN, then have fun with it !

Answer 10

Don't do oral with him. Be safe and wait. Nowadays you have to really be careful with all the STD out there. If he doesn't like it then he was just trying to play you like a fool!

Use your brain and be careful!