so me and my had a really huge fight, and i told him i need my space, he's away, so when he's gonna come back in maybe couple monthes...I know that when i see him and get alone with him, it's just gonna be a problem because he's gonna be kissing me and stuff and i will be so weak....WE HAVE A GREAT CHEMISTRY...and i just don't wanna be weak and give in for sex...any advises i can use to make myself not have sex?
2007-01-31 18:38:56 · 31 answers · asked by prettybella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it's too easy to say, "Avoid being alone with him." You say he will be back in a couple of months: first of all, I commend you for being strong enough to make him stay away that long. In the meantime, use that time as an opportunity to strengthen your resolve. YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT. NO ONE has the right to pressure for ANYTHING with which you are not comfortable. And anyone who does is NOT concerned with your best interests.
Your physical reaction to his advances is normal - your emotional reaction is admirable. Stand your ground. Once you give in, you have conceded all credibility and, possibly all integrity. Wait for what you deserve, girl.
2007-01-31 18:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by diastat_nation 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks likeyou both have been 'great' sex in your relationship. Why do you want to stop now. If your boy friend wants to break away from you because he is not gettig sex, think as to wouldyoulike to be with someone who just wants sex.
You deserve lot more. You want a man who wants you for who you are and sees more than two boobs and a crack between legs. If he does not understand that you are much more then he does not deserve you. You are better off waiting for a guy who sees you as a person not a sex hole.
On how to stop him when he forces you, let me tell you as a guy, when guys are in passion, they do not see any thing beyond an immidiate orgasm. After orgasm,they are done with the girl and wonder what am I still doing here. Especially if sex is all that they are interested in.
So your trick is to stop him before his passions are aroused. Other peope have given you enough suggestions on how to do that.
Have a rethink about your relationship.
2007-01-31 18:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by tony01p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel that he's suffocating you with attention? And that any time you try to pull back, he gets desperate, which makes you feel more suffocated? He may be using sex as a way to keep you attached to him. Your situation worries me, because if you try to end the relationship, he could turn into a stalker. This is about more than sex, it's about someone trying to control you. Get some professional help about how to get out of this relationship, and what you can do (like a restraining order) to send him a message that you mean business. Otherwise, if you do nothing and keep giving in to his demands for sex, this situation will keep repeating itself, with him blowing up, and you feeling more frustrated and afraid. You need to find a way out soon, or it will only get worse.
2007-01-31 18:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him if you can`t control yourself. Self control. As an example, If a sweety from my past walked back into my life and tried to get in on the same level she left she`d be dreaming. Everyone everywhere starts on the ground level why should that person gets things differently from everyone else. Especially after what you have been through. Find another guy that will kick his *** if he comes back.lol.
2007-01-31 18:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you guys are not in the middle of heated passion, - like at dinner time, etc. Sit down and explain to him that you want to wait for sex. If he doesn't understand, then you need to break up with him.
Secondly, don't be ALONE with him at your/ house and stay away from any bedrooms! Keep the "stuff" part of the making out away, and stick with kissing. When his hand goes down your pants or to unsnap your bra, say "stop" or "no". Its as simple as that. guys can be really pushy when it comes to sex. But if he doesn't understand "no" or tries to make you feel bad for not having sex with him, then you don't need to be with him.
2007-01-31 18:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by slaughter114 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 09:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going through the same thing with my bf . i suggest to stick to your guns. if your not your not ready. he may not like it. but if he really cares/ loves you then he will be patient and wait. and also know your bounderies. and know when to back off after the kissing so that way it wont go any futher. My bf and i have been together for 10 months now. we havent had sex. because im afraid of the outcome afterwards . just keep on sticking to your guns and you will be fime.. wel good luck and gold bless.
from stephanie
2007-01-31 18:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by yp_stephanie_el_monte 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There should be no pressure in a relationship.
Sacrifice should be mutual.
I think the perfect way to say it, is to say it frankly, not bluntly, with a smile. "I am not ready for this yet"
Your boyfriend should understand and wait. If he pressures you, than I'm afraid he does not respect you or love you enough.
And personally, I think girls should abstain from sexual intercourse before marriage. You can get intimate with him but you don't have to lose your virginity. But again, that's only my personal opinion. Goodluck girl.
2007-01-31 19:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very silly and persoanl question indeed.
However 1stly you have to decide what actually you want, his love or hatred? It cannot be intermediate. Love without sex or sex without love both have other meanings.
2ndly: When you have fed a lion with meat and now want him to eat apple and cabbage, it's quite difficult.
2007-01-31 19:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is in your heart. If you are not ready you need to tell him. If he cares about you he will wait until you are ready. Do not rush into things. If he can not respect you, you deserve better. You need to follow your heart and if you are not ready you need to be honest with him. He needs to respect you. If he truly cares about you he will wait. If you are not ready do Not do-it be true to your self. That is what matters in the end. You are in charge of your own life, do not forget that,
2007-01-31 18:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by Allie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋