How can I stop from thinking that sex is gross?

Question

I am 24 years old and still I find that it is gross and panic everytime I get close enough to a guy for this to happen.....
I dont think of it as a romantic thing at all....I think of it as something that I am truly scared of.
please help....and i wont go to therapy because i am not talking to some stranger about sex.

Answer 1

you obviously never met a partner that makes you forget to be cautious or frightened so it's okay to not want sex with every tom,dick or henry.
wait for the right fella who sweeps you off your feet and then you will relax and enjoy !

Answer 2

You already are talking to strangers about sex except you're hiding behind a computer screen. If you think heterosexual sex is gross, maybe you are a lesbian. If you think all sex regardless of sexual orientation is gross, you probably have issues with doing things like masturbating as well. You can call yourself asexual and get on with your life or seek counselling. Sex isn't that big of a deal and it really doesn't matter if you've never had it and don't want it.

Answer 3

Hi Sweetie,

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have had this problem myself, and still do sometimes.What I found though,
was that it was with 'certain' people that I found it gross with, not sex in general. I either found that they didn't shower enough, looked diff naked, poor hygiene... and I couldn't imagine sleeping with someone that I wasn't physically attracted to... therefor sex with them was gross. Also, maybe your attracted to women? Please don't be offended by me saying this, because sometimes people are attracted to the same sex and never really realized it because they never explored that option.

I personally would just find out who, and what I am attracted to. Start with small sexual things, and then go further. Stop when your uncomfortable, and take it at your own pace :) You'll know when you finally find something good ;)

Answer 4

Perhaps you have some intimacy issues? Perhaps you are afraid to let go of your feelings. Perhaps the fear of not being in control?

Sex is natural. It's a part of life, it's a part of life. Everybody is doin' it. Even turtles are getting it on! So what makes it so gross?

When you care about someone and you trust that person, you'll want to get intimate with that special someone. That's the best way to let it happen.

Answer 5

Dear friend , if you postpone this activity for another few years , you have to opt to be a NUN . If you want to live in the society and want to enjoy life , then you must ask your friend to take you out and you both must spend lots of time drinking / dancing / slow dancing / touching / caressing , till you really get charged and hot , here your friend should go very slowly and without letting you know , should go ahead & do it . I am sure you will never know or make it out when it will happen and after wards you will only invite him to repeat the session . Just give athought and act accordingly .

Answer 6

You have some myths in mind or misconceptions about sex which you have to overcome and become free during sex. If you have a true bf with whom you can have sex, just give your mind and body to him and experience the orgasm. gradully you will find it interesting if your partner is good. You can have proper information about sex from web sites and books too.

Answer 7

i was scared to have sex for the first time also but after you do you wont be as scare. I suggest finding a guy with a small penis or it might hurt. Have you tried foreplay? as in mutual masterbation or oral sex? alcoho? All of these thing will probably get you so hot you wont even be thinkin about "gross" you'll just want to fix your need quick.

Answer 8

You have to get used to the idea that it's normal and everybody does it. You think it's gross because we hide it in our society. Try looking at porn. Do some exploring. The more you see, the more you'll get used to it. Try to initiate sex rather than letting it happen to you. Put yourself in the driver's seat.

Answer 9

First of all sex is a God-given very special gift.

But there are many people out there without major sex drives. If you don't have one, that is perfectly fine. There are other things in life.

Answer 10

There's a passage in the Bible that says :
"For the Pure everything is Pure" .
Stop demonizing sex. It's a totally natural thing.
I think you're affected by Porn ! Porn is sick, commercial, gross and causes disgust. Think of sex as the most sacred and intimate part of a relationship. Goodluck.