How do I give up my rights as a birth mother?

Question

I AM A SINGLE MOM OF 3 KIDS, I HAVE CUSTODY OF THE YOUNGEST TWO. I GET NO HELP IN RAISING THEM. I NEED INFO ON HOW TO GIVE UP RIGHTS TO THE OLDEST. I AM PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR HER AND TRYING TO SUPPORT THE OTHER TWO ON A VERY LOW INCOME. I QUIT SCHOOL IN THE 9TH GRADE AT 16, SO THERE ARE NOT MANY JOBS I AM QUALIFIED FOR. PLEASE HELP.

Answer 1

An adoption poem:


I did not plant you, true.
But when the season is done,
When the alternative prayers for sun
and for rain are counted,
When the pain of weeding
And the pride of watching are through,
Then I will hold you high,
A shining sheaf above
the thousand seeds grown wild.
Not my planting,
But, by heaven,
My harvest -
My child.

Answer 2

If you are capable of signing over your rights as a parent to your oldest child then you should sign over your parental rights on all three children; because doing such a thing is going to be something your oldest child will NEVER, EVER, understand. That child will always wonder why you picked the two younger ones to keep and why you gave her away forever.

Get a lawyer, go to court, and see if you can have the child support reduced for a while and/or go to your welfare office and get all the help you can get from there. If you can't afford a lawyer go to the clerk's office at the court, ask if you can fill out a form to waive court fees because of indigence, and ask the clerk's office which forms you need to fill out to file a motion to reduce the child support.

There is at least the possiblity that the court would not allow you to sign over your parental rights anyway. As far as I know, not wanting to have to pay child support isn't a good enough reason to want to give up parental rights.

Start by going to a welfare office and ask what you can do. If you've already done that go to the court clerk's office and ask there.

Answer 3

I am one of three children. We were raised by a single mother, who was on temporary disabilty for several years. The doctors would not sign the permanent disability papers. Mom got no help raising us, no child support, nothing. Temporary disability checks are not large, in fact they were calcualted by what my mom needed to live on, just mom. The system concluded that dad needed to pay for the kids, a little hard when he has disappeared. She couldn't get welfare or food stamps because she was on disabilty. The state would not pay for her to go to school (not back then).
Anyway, we made it. We made it because although mom didn't have much money she had lots and lots of love and determination. We didn't have much, lived in a two bedroom apartment (4 of us), no phone, no walkmans (sorry showing my age), no cable tv; we had the essentials in life and we made it just fine. There are places out there that will help you with food and clothes and an education for you and your kids. There is government assistance available all over the states. I thought we won the lottery when we got accepted into low income housing, I got my own room and we bought a VCR (I was 16). Its hard but it is available. If you really want to be a mom and succeed as a single mom you can do it.
Don't worry about how it will affect your kids to get government assistance, what you teach them and show them will affect them most. My mom did a fantastic job of encouraging us to get out of the low income bracket when we became adults, anything is possilbe if you want it bad enough and work for it.

Answer 4

Are you sure this is the only option? I think you should look into your options. Start by calling your county human resource center. If you give me your contact info or would like I could look into this for you. I find it hard to believe there aren't other options for you.

However this is your choice & I respect that...so no offense please. My mom was poor but had assistance & I believe there are more than one option. Then again I live in MN and am not sure what your state/city offers because I know it varies from city to city here.

If you aren't interested in other options I believe the same place could answer you question about your custodial rights.

Best Wishes & God Bless!

Answer 5

You need to get off your pity party story and make a life for you and your kids. If you cant raise them or wont raise them. Then find a lawyer and put them all up for adoptions so they might have a chance of a decent life than having to live with a worthless mother.

Answer 6

Sorry for the difficult situation that your in. I think in the future you might regret the decision that you are considering. If i were you i would try to do anything possiabe to keep my kids and family together. Get goverment assistance or do anything possiable to cut costs and get what you need. It may seem difficult but there is a way if you try hard enough.

Answer 7

If you were brave enough to have sex, Why don't you encourage your self to take them ahead? Where is your love as a mother? Why don't you take the classes for the high school diploma at least? What happen with your parents? Can they help you? Do you know how hurting will be this for them? People take this example, don't have sex if you are not ready for the responsibility that this brings.

Answer 8

Giving up your parental rights will not get you out of paying child support on her.

Answer 9

you can't sign over your right's unless he agree's .
and they are passing a new law where you can't sign your rights.
where are you located im in cape,you need a babysitter or a ride or some kind of help.
i am a mother of 4,but have custody of 9 children.
but as far as signing your rights think about it hard before you do because you might regret it.

Answer 10

Very sorry to know your problem.
There is no way to give up birth right but you can send them to orphanage for better raising and survival at least