Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years, it was great when it started but after a year we started arguing and i admit i would say things just to hurt him but then he started pushing and grabbing me really hard leavin bruises and i stopped sayin that stuff but now when he gets mad whether it is my fault or not he takes it out on me. it has now gotten to the point where he'll hit me or choke me. when i cry he always holds me an tells me sorry an wont do it again. Should i wait for it to get better or leave before it gets worse?
2007-01-31 18:29:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave now....
2007-01-31 18:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not going to get better. Read what you wrote. The violence is escalating. Leave while you still have some shreds of dignity and self worth and can still walk upright. This is not your fault, sweetie. No matter what you say or do, no man has the right to hit you. He's bigger and stronger than you are and it's just about power and control. It's a sick, twisted relationship. THIS IS ABUSE.
You need to protect yourself. Get out now. If you don't have family, there are women's shelters that will help you get on your feet. If you have relatives who are living out of state that he doesn't know about, then you may consider going there so he can't find you.
Ask yourself how many times he's promised he wouldn't do it again and then the next time he's angry, he uses you as a punching bag again.
2007-02-01 02:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by Loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know to accept the truth, that relationship is tainted. There is no such thing in waiting for such a situation to get better, the relationship sounds dangerous. Even if you do care for him and try to get therapy, the reality will be that the grounds of confidentiality will be broken because that is abuse and the counselor will be obligated to report to proper authorities. That is where you would have to weigh in, is this man worth filing a police report, and THEN having to deal with his most definately difficult emotions after his release from police/ investigation. If you care for your personal well being (mentally, physically), then do not pursue any further involvement in the relationship. I might even advise to keep quiet about it till the right time, so that you may be prepared to be out of picture; therefore he will not be able to follow you so easily (check in with some form of Adult Protective Services- should be available in any community).
2007-02-01 02:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by adudedult 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question you already know the answer.
You are with someone who abuses you. Why under any circumstances is that ok with you, let alone what you would consider a romantic relationship. There are plenty of guys out there - go get a new one!
Also, i don't know if you are a teen or adult, but I would strongly suggest that you are not alone when you break up with him. He has already abused you when he is angry, make sure he doesn't get to hurt you again.
2007-02-01 02:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by scottie04240 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to be on the frist thing running if he is choking you then holding you and saying sorry he is showing you what is to come he will hurt you and hold you and tell you he is sorry and be ok with it so get out of there
2007-02-01 02:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by yomom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should start to leave..although i know how hard it is to leave someone you wished you could be with all the time but it has to stop especially when he is now hurting you...because if your man really loves you, he must know how to handle such things..It is never an excuse if he is angry or what, it is still not right to hurt a girl...
love must know how to understand and if he doesn't know how to do that,well i think you have to leave and try to move on...
don't worry...because if you two are really destined to be together forever..it will happen whatever challenges or problems that will block your way...
lay(n_n)
2007-02-01 02:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by lay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You shouldn't stay. Every guy that beats his significant other apologizes. He has an abuse problem. It's not YOUR problem and you can't fix him. Leave before it gets worse and maybe seek some counseling to work on your self esteem. There are places you can go to get emotional support and talk to other women in your situation.
2007-02-01 02:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It will get worst. He keeps doing it. An abuser will always keep doing it especially if they say they won't again and always end up continuing. Do you want this to continue on in marriage? Do you see yourself marrying him? Well, you know your answer, leave the guy before it really gets ugly.
2007-02-01 02:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say run with your life. What are you waiting for? For him to kill you? What will stop him from hitting you again and again when all he has to do is hold you and tell you a sick lie that he loves you and you stay? It won't stop. Go and get a life.
2007-02-01 02:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by Bootilicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont leave... RUN! In my years I have seen too many women who stick it out and get the tar kicked out of them. Men for the most part dont change a beater will progress as it sounds he is doing, get the heck out of there before its too late. I (in highschool) volunteered at the near by battered women's shelter and saw too many times the effects of an abusive man. RUN, please so I dont have to chat with you about the pending lawsuit.
2007-02-01 02:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by nyoo1578 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth it ,so kick that man to the curb. Life is too short to put up with cruelty, ignorance from someone who is suppossed to love you. That is not love nor is that "like". That is what hate looks like. Besides, there are alot of fish in the sea - as the saying goes.
2007-02-01 02:41:57 · answer #11 · answered by veni*vidi*vici 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋