Im 17 and i like this guy Kevin. i met him thru my friend at the time John like a year ago. john and i dont talk nemore cos hes an idiot. anyway, i 4got hw but we added each other on msn. b4 new years kevin + i spoke on msn n exchangd fone numbers. we decided 2 meet up and get 2 kno each otha. he was being flirty but respectful too. we met up and went to the movies and had such a good time. we were joking around about me going to his house + watchin movies n me sleeping over + spontaneously we wnt 2 his house. he didnt try anything with me at all.. we jst kissed. i slept with him in bed but it was purely innocent and we were cuddling and spoke about everything like relationships and wat we wanted to do in d future. in morning he took me home and then he neva smsd me. so like 3 days later i smsd him to c how he was. he replied but never msged after that.. i went up 2 him on MSN one day but he was kind of distant and went offline w/o saying bye. wats going on??! be honest but nice!!! lol
2007-01-31 18:20:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a girl gets into bed on first night (including innocent,especially innocent) the guy thinks she must be doing it with every one on her first date. If you remain innocent in bed next to him, he thinks you are weird or teasing him and not worth the chase. Even getting you in the bed does not get sex.
Getting into bed guyes think (right or wrong) that you are a slut (apolgies for using this 's' word but did not know how else)
Then abstaining means you are a game player.
How can you fix it if you want him back:
1) It may be too late to fix
2) Tell him you were not planning to go to his house on first date but he sure knows how to sweep a girl off her feet.
3) Thank him for not taking advantage of you when you had fell for him and got into his home and bed. Tell him you have enoromous respect for him for respecting you.
4) Tell him, I wish I could find a bf who has qualities like you have.
5) Tell him, I am afraid on going on a date with a cute guy again for every one may not be as nice as he was.
6) Ask him if we can meet as friends.
Good luck
PS: Do not go to his home for first few dates if you meet again. Kiss on his cheek on day one. Give an innocent hug on day two. An innocent hug and a kiss on day three. After that follow your heart but do not compromise your integrity like you did until he is going exclusive with you.
2007-01-31 18:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by tony01p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably was expecting you to have sex with him thats all a lot of guys want now a days. He probably got all exited and horny when u said u wantd to stay the night beacause he thought u were gonna give him some. Dont sweat it he's an ***. You shouldnt commit to something like that unless you are 100% sure or u will regret it later. but that is probably all he wanted. sorry
2007-01-31 18:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. I kinda be attentive to the form you sense. I basically want you to be attentive to appropriate now that i'm sixteen.... yet I definatley can see the place you're coming from. I even have had a surprisingly good quantity of adventure with adult men, yet then I met this guy that who has in no way had a female buddy. So what did I do? I taught him. the 1st element that I had to do develop into practice him a thank you to kiss. The greater time he spent with me, the greater he grew to become mushy with me and he have been given to be attentive to how a woman acts in any variety of concern. i develop into affected person with him. Very affected person, because of the fact he develop into discovering. i develop into continuously used to being with a guy who knew what to do. case in point, calling me..... i'm nonetheless engaged on that. He in no way does. yet he will study. And so will you. in my opinion, that is not any longer a turn-off. So do no longer concern approximately it.
2016-11-02 00:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have axperienced your first rejection. You may have many more if you think that having sex at that age is some sort of a commited to boys your age too.
It's more emotinal for girls to have sex. That's why most (well...some) girls wait. He just sgrigged his shoulders at you like it was nothing. To him it may have been just that. Swallow your pride as you oviously have done yet and learn from your mistake and move on....sllloooowwwlllyyy. Sex is not love.
Don't make the sme mistake twice...then you wouldn't have learned a thing!
Good Luck!
2007-01-31 18:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by BadBill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmn. Maybe you both read the signs of a relationship wrong. Maybe he thought it was just a one fun date thing, that's it. If you really like him, write a long email to him with your true feelings. Guys are sometimes so elusive...
2007-01-31 18:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Daschundobessed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think just give him space maybe he is afraid that you had developed feeling for him and he is just not interested in a relationship now, there is nothing wrong with you he is just trying to play it safe
The best approach would be just text and tell him that you dont expect something more of him that friendship
2007-01-31 18:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the nyt u spent 2geda he found out u not the 1 4 him.sori
2007-01-31 18:32:25 · answer #7 · answered by chrismenzi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like hes just not interested. Sorry
2007-01-31 18:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he might have realized that he is not interested in you. and probably doesnt want to confront the issue of having to explain himself to you about what happend between you guys. (explains why he is evasive)
2007-01-31 18:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by klao8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be he's scared away by the thought of having a relationship.
2007-01-31 18:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋