I have a almost 3 year old who has been banging his head on the walls for almost 2 years every morning nap and at night. I have taken his to phycologist who claim that it is a nerve problem, but seen a show on Dr. Phil about a little girl who was pulling her hair out and her doctors told her parents the same thing as mine told me. But his experts claim it is because they took to much away at one time, like I did to him. Bed and bottle both, so if anyone is going or went through this please help me! I am losing my mind about the constant beating on the walls!!!
2007-01-31 18:13:07 · 10 answers · asked by sneekygirl69 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Since his comforts are gone, he has no way to self sooth. The banging may be a ritual to him. Aside from bottles and binki's and teddy bears, the thing that will make a child most comfortable and secure is a schedule. For instance right before bathtime, have a certain song you sing so he knows that bath time is coming...before nap time, play a particular puzzle or read a book about naptime, put him in bed and put on a little puppet show. I just started playing a bach cd at my daughters bedtime and she knows she has to go to sleep, she may fuss at first, but within minutes is laying quietly. They need to know where the limits are, if there were never any limits, the child would never feel safe, they wouldn't know what to expect. My daughter used to bang her head on the floor, the wall, the couch, your leg, whatever was closest, when she was mad. At first I would freak out and make her stop, then one day I just ignored her completely when she did it, and she saw that she got no reaction from me and she stopped and never did it again after that. Kids will test you and if they like your reaction to something, they will keep doing it. Good luck, and please don't medicate your child for this. The side effects and long term problems caused by man made drugs are horrible!
2007-02-01 04:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be trying to tell you something. At that age kids cannot tell you what they need or want. Is he getting enough mental stimulation during the day? He might be bored so he's not tired when you try to put him down. He might even be in pain. Has he had a medical workup? There may be a reason that docs can find with a thorough check up. Try keeping him really busy when he's awake so he is more tired.
2007-01-31 18:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 2 ½ and he also did almost the same when he was 1and half year old he does this when ever we refuse his demand and what we did is we try to ignored it and instead of getting angry we laughed at him and slowly he started stopping this habit and now he is not banging his head on the walls
All the best
2007-01-31 21:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by kutan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to fret. Hopefully you live in a home vs. apartment. Reason being we were actually evicted from an apartment when my daughter was young, they thought my husband & I were have WILD SEX! Imagine that??? When I told them that it was my daughter they laughed & gave me a 30day notice. SHe actually broke 2 cribs banging her head at one end of them. My daughter is now 16 & she has graduated from banging to rocking or bouncing her leg. Rest assure that your son will be fine. I also had extensive testing done with no avail. Just pray. That was the only thing that helped my sanity. SHe is now a beautiful intelligent young lady. God Bless
2007-01-31 18:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is hold him until he is completely asleep for a while until the pattern of beating his head in bed is broken. Then when he wakes up, get him up out of bed immediately. It will take a big effort on your part but it will be worth it.
2007-01-31 18:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i would definitely have your child thoroughly checked out to make sure that this is nothing wrong, but it seems to me that it is just fighting the tiredness, my daughter kinda sort does this also when shes pretty good about going to bed she tells you when shes tired but at the same time while shes sitting there playing and she because tired or a lil drowsy, she smacks herself in the head... and I'm not talking lightly she literally just smacks herself,,, maybe that just their way of saying WAKE UP,, i had a niece who used to head butt the floor when u told her it was nap time,,, so don't stress to much if there are other signs that maybe something is wrong take him to get checked out just to clear your mind, but he is probably fine...
2007-01-31 18:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by madre_de_isabella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that he does it at nap and bedtime sounds to me like just a way of fighting sleep. Kids don't like to sleep because they don't like the idea of missing something. Try playing with him, reading to him, etc. before each nap and bedtime. That might help him relax.
2007-01-31 18:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by busemomme 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i do not know your family dynamics, so the best advice is if he has a favorite spot pad it. If not when he gets up put a bicycle helmit on him. Make that helmit as cool as posible for him, brag it up, make it his super heroes helmit, Kids are easy to trick.
2007-01-31 18:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like fighting sleep?
2007-01-31 19:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek counseling. he might need to take some meds
2007-01-31 18:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by PD 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋