Do you think adults should go back to the old form of punishment?

Question

when disciplining their kids? I remember when i got swatted at school for misbehaving. My dad would hit me with the belt. thats the way i learned to respect other ppl and learn from my mistakes. Nowadays you see kids talking back to te adults because they know that they cant be touched.

Answer 1

I would do what ever works. We use a very old fashioned form of spanking, because it works. Our personal choice is not to use belts, but I don't think the modern idea of a spanking being 1 or 2 swats over a clothed behind is very effective. Yes I do think a spanking should be felt, that doesn't mean you should be leaving permanent marks, you can give a good spanking w/out doing that. I do understand your reason for this question. Children do seem to be acting out more these days, then back when we were children.

Good Luck

Answer 2

In the old days, kids were whacked for anything and everything. So, no I don't really want to go back to that, although I think that smacking should be used as a form of discipline.
For those who think that the worst thing in the world is to be smacked, I can assure you that it isn't. My mother had a rapier sharp tongue and she would often ignore me, which hurt me far more than the occasional smacks I got.
However, the missing ingredient in today's upbringing is this: teach your children how to behave. Too many parents are overwhelmed by the job and don't know how to tackle it. My children know that backchatting an adult is unacceptable and although I occasionally have it in my house, no adult has ever complained about my children's behaviour at school, for example.

Answer 3

I really think children now days need to be disciplined like in the old days, which is spanking your children. Now days it seems like the children are in control of their parents. They let them do whatever they want and are afraid to discipline them. Another thing that makes me mad is newer parents think it is terrible to spank your child, like if you spanked your child at a grocery store, they could call the police on you and get in trouble, which I think is ridiculous. I'm a mother of a 17 months, my son is at the age where he throws his temper tantrums and doesn't listen but I know that later I will spank him if he does something wrong. Putting the kid in "TIME OUT.." isnt discipline, children find ways to entertain themselves while sitting there facing the wall, or sitting on a chair.

Answer 4

Well, there are different forms to discipline a child such as talking and explaining that what he/she did is wrong and that would affect him/her as well. Children nowadays can easily comprehend though you really have to catch their attention. Kids should also be taught by example, so better be aware of your actions for they will surely imitate you as their "role model."

Answer 5

Agree 100%!

Over the years experience has taught me an undeniable truth:
There is a direct connection between a child's backside and their ears. Just a couple of swats and they hear much better.

Old form? It's only old for my kids now because they're in their twenties!

Answer 6

ABSOLUTELY. I want to go up and grab a kid by the ear when I see them yelling at their parents, throwing an utter fit, or just being completely unruly. I mean, what is wrong with people that they give all the power to their children? It is the responsibility of the parents to raise and develop decent children. No wonder the younger generation is the way it is. I'm only 22 and it makes me sick!

Answer 7

they do not talk back because of that, they talk back because there are so many lazy parents out there, i want my children to show respect because its the right thing to do not because of fear, i do not and have never hit my children, but i do discipline and insist on respect, it must work because they are very respectful and would not talk back to an adult even the ones who might deserve it, there are alternatives to hitting i think the problem is no discipline, no consistency

Answer 8

I think spanking is sometimes neccessary. The punishment should fit the crime...i'm not going to spank my kids just because they accidently spilled something. i'm going to give or tell them to get some rags and clean it up. now, if they did it on purpose, that's a time out or loss of some priviledges. you don't have to always spank your kids over everything...it just depends on what they did and why they did it.

Answer 9

i agree with you, BUT just think what was your reaction when you dad bet you - i am sure you must have cried and got scared of him and tried not to do it again- Right!

but now the children are different generation- they will run away from the house or try even to kill them self, they are not bother of any thing men!! it is better to tell them nicely and get your work done

nowadays they can even take you to the court...

Answer 10

Yeah, and we should also bring back the "rule of thumb." That's the rule that said you could only beat your wife with a stick that was skinnier than the width of your thumb. And while you're at it, allow teachers to beat your kids senseless with yard sticks. Beat their knuckles, beat their bare bottoms... whatever makes them behave.

I hope that my sarcasm is obvious in the above comment. Sadly, the sarcastic part of my response to your question is made up of actual ways that people have been taught to "behave" over the years. The fact is that if you learned to show respect to your elders, it was in spite of your beatings. Respect through brute force is not respect... it is fear.