I don't under HER!!! what does she wants???

Question

Dont understand her! She broke off with her Bf 7mths ago. Last few weeks i make known to her that i like her.

She told me right now she is not willing to commit any relationship but she wont deny in futre she wont. However she did not reject me. During her down period, we become close friend. We communicate with each other frequently. Nowaday it gone less.. especially after i declare my love for her.

I still call her daily to wake her up to work. Nowaday we went cold with each other. In my heart i know she is still there but i assume she wanted she want us to remain as friend. as whenever i text her. she would reply short unlike last time and sometime nvr reply.

The strange things is she would text me only when she is tipsy... other then that she seldom text me. What is she thinking? I m trying to move on and she keep holding me back.

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Answer 1

She's very confused. She enjoyed having you in her life as someone whom she could lean on. Good friendship is a great start to a dating relationship. I'm sure that you felt that you'd waited long enough, given her enough time to get over her BF. It sounds to me as if she's still in love with him, or at least wants him.

She should have talked out her feelings with you, instead of avoiding you. That's what friends do but she didn't know what to do when you changed the way things had been going. She preferred having things the way they had been with you always there for her, taking care of her and looking out for her, but it was one-sided. She didn't do much for you, I bet. It sounds as if she took advantage.

She probably texts when she's been drinking because she's feeling lonely and misses a shoulder to cry on. She is not treating you well, fairly or kindly. Stop calling her to wake her. Stop communicating with her and when she texts when she's drunk, tell her to text when she's sober and you'll talk to her then. Anything else and you're letting yourself be used.

You sound like a sweet guy. Move on, you deserve better. When you meet someone who appreciates your good, caring and kind heart, you'll be glad that you didn't settle for. All the best.

Answer 2

The answer is pretty clear. She's not that into you. When someone gives you excuses for why they don't want to date you, the excuse is not important. What's important is that they're telling you no, no matter how nice they try to make it sound. If she texts you when she's been drinking and that's the only time, I think you know that's a sign too. Don't worry about it. We all get rejected but there's also plenty of other girls out there that like you. Or will when they meet you:) So move on, don't let her string you along and meet new people.

Answer 3

You've already told her what you want from the relationship. Now let her do the talking. Find out what she wants. Tell her how you feel about it and based on her answer, decide if you should end it. No one wants to be continually led on. Good luck!

Answer 4

well, she told you that she's not wanting more than a friendship. we girls like to have guys as friends too but sometimes the guy or girl start having more than friend feelings. then you try to back away and give space to not allow the feelings to grow more.
she wants you to cool the fire you have for her so she can talk easily and continue to confide in you. she needs more girlfriends maybe. I hope it all works out for you. peace

Answer 5

Let it go dude!! Forget her, you have already blown it with her. Women like the chase. You confessed your love for her way to early in the game.

Answer 6

Move on she's only trying to use you if she doesn't always talk to you... plus women like the chase, you probably came on too strong.

Answer 7

a guy i know does this to me, i always feel like hes pressuring me or cornering me. maybe shes getting annoyed with you for professing your love to her constantly, know what i mean?

Answer 8

Only she knows that answer. You need to ask HER!