I just turned 18, and can not live at home anymore, not being kicked out but cant deal with all the verbal abuse, thing is im still in High School, i dont want to drop out, but i know if i were to move out, i would need to drop out in order, to survive (work all day to pay for a shack), have any of u heard of the goverment paying 4 my housing till i finish school? if not what can i do? Please help me, i do not know what to do anymore!
2007-01-31 17:36:55 · 20 answers · asked by aragon_m25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
unfortuntately i am not in the US so i'm not sure what the policies are there. is there someone that you are close to, friend or family, that you could stay with??? its a horrible situation to be in and I hope for the sake of your own bright future that you don't have to be in a position to drop out of school.
2007-01-31 17:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by desert_rose1274 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aragon,
First of all, let's think this out with a cool head, ok?
I don't know the details of your home situation, but based upon your post, I'll assume you're in a bad spot, and I will answer this under that assumption, ok?
Being 18, you're at an advantage, because you're considered an adult, for the most part. But you also have many disadvantages due to age :
1. Most landlords will not rent to someone under 21. You will need deposits of usually first, last, and security. If you do not have these, most will not rent to you.
2. Government assisted housing is ok if you're homeless and have no other choices, but anyone who has had to live in government housing will also tell you the horror stories. It is not a good place to live, I'm telling it to you straight. It's better than a cardboard box under the bridge, but not much better at times. I am not sure that you would even qualify, but if you think you could tough it out, then go to your local Social Services office and put in your paperwork. The worst they can say is "no."
3. Another option is to go down to your local community college and take your GED. That would get your high school out of the way. Usually you can take all the tests in three nights.
4. The US military is also an option for you. They will provide you with food, housing, clothing, medical care and above all, a paycheck. You being 18, you would not need parental consent to enlist. The military also provides you with enlistment incentives such as cash, or a college education. Given your current situation, this is one of your very best options. Just because you enlist does not mean you have to take an infantry job and go to combat deployment. There are plenty of technical jobs that will keep you off the front lines if combat makes you squeamish.
5. Find other family or friends who will rent you a room until you complete school, get a job, or both. I'm not sure if that is an option for you.
I'm sorry, my friend. But your choices are limited. Think things over, and decide what is best for you.
Best wishes!
2007-02-01 01:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH **** what everyone else is saying. Listen to my story.
I am from Michigan.
Worked like a dog after school till 10 pm
made at least 300 every two weeks.
I moved out. Problems at home were too bad. I WAS ALSO STILL ATTENDING HIGH SCHOOL AND GRADUATED WITH A 3.6. not bad. Almost a 4.0 eh?
;0
Alright, I moved out. But was working.
Then, I MOVED AGAIN. That situation didn't work. I moved an hour away even. I drove 1 whole hour to school and work and home again. Only to do more homework. OH, and i was dual enrolled at Macomb Community College. Look it up, it exists.
So. I was strapped, tired, and life sucked at home. (or what used to be home)
POINT OF STORY: I made it through. I eventually moved in with my fiance, and am getting married. I mean I JUST MOVED IN. So, i did it on my own.
You can do whatever you want. Seriously.
I would say at least line this stuff up before you leave, because no, the only gov. assistance their is, is
welfare
or the military
and the gov. does not give a flying ****. WHY? because your considered a legal adult. They say hey! get a job, and figure it out.
SO. line up a job. (It will also get you out of the house more :) )
Put an ad out with your number on it, or a friends, and just check with your friend to see who called. Do this so you can find a roomate, who may be in the same situation as you.
Then if you can't find an apartment. There is gov. housing. But it sucks. and if you get a job, they want more money, or for you to leave. and that is not the way to go. You want a job.
But welfare will help a bunch. All you need to do get online at Michigan.gov. and find your local Department of human services. After that, put in your info and it'll bring up one closest to you. Call and find out their hours and make an appt. or walk-in(just get there early, welfare lines start as early as 6:30 am.)
So, you have the right to move out, and i would too in your situation. Noone deserves to be treated wrongly. And if you are unhappy, get the hell outta there. Just know your stuff. Good luck, and stay strong! :)
Oh, It may be slightly diff. for you, but, you will need about 600 per month to survive. and that is only rent and food.:( see...it sucks :)
2007-02-01 21:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you see if you have close friends in the area that you could stay with. you're prob almost done with school im assuming so it's not that much longer. financially the best thing would be to just stay at home a little while longer, but if you are prepared to sacrifice the financial stability it sounds like you have at home then that would be okay. But you have to think about college and financial aid - if you move out will your parents still pay for your college? Universities won't give you financial aid on your own unless you're over 25 or married, and you are neither, so this could screw up your future big time.
2007-02-01 04:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by 11bikramgirl11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is February. If you graduated this year just hold on and tough it out for five more months. Get a plan together. Because once you leave you can't go back. And going back will probably be worse than now. Or you could luck up on a older couple that need some help around the house. But please be care and PRAY FOR GUIDANCE. peace
Also let joining the miltary be your absolute last resource. I would rather go strip for rent money. First
2007-02-01 02:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Moca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with social services to see if they can help you find some housing until you finish high school so you can get out of that house! After that you may be able to live with a relative? Contact a relative to see if staying with them is possible. That way you can stay in school. Good luck and keep your chin up!
2007-02-01 05:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by WhiteRain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a school counsellor. I finished my senior year in foster care to get out of my living situation, and that was over 30 years ago. My counsellor actually got one of her friends to put me up for a few months until I finished school. I'm sure there are better programs than that out there now.
2007-02-01 01:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for a roommate...or just a room to rent and get a part time job.
As far as Govt services..check with your local county office building. Also speak with your school guidance counselor to see what options he/she might know that you hadn't thought of.
Do not quit school. Finish and look for grants to go to college. Although things are bad...it wont stay that way forever. Hang in there kid.
2007-02-01 01:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by Steph 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can you should just deal with it, but if its just to much you could get a part time job .There are a lot of jobs that you can do and make enough for a condo ,especially if you have a drivers license .you can also get grant but those usually take months and some of them make you pay for it.If they tell you, you have to pay for something other than shipping don't get it it's a scam. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-01 01:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by Asha J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Job Corp:
http://jobcorps.dol.gov/
2007-02-01 01:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋