I'm Fat...And Lonley...What Can I Do?

Question

I'm 19 and overweight. I have never been on a date, kissed a guy or any of that...i'm trying my hardest to solve my weight problems but i feel very lonley. i see the way guys look at my skinny best friend and i feel jelous. Do guys ever see past the outside. I mean i know i may not be the most attractive person in the world but im still a person. I don't knwo what to do....i really want someone to love me and i want to be in a relationship

Answer 1

I have alot of guy friends, and thanks to them I learn alot from them!

Most guys love girls who have confidence in themselves! Don't matter if thick or thin,mess to fabe. You need confidence girl! Even though your overweight and trying to loose it, you still got to love yourself! Spice things out, start something new to increase that. Makeover time!

Answer 2

This may be a shock so you might want to sit down.
Skinny girls, gorgeous girls, sometimes do not have dates all the time, sometimes end up with guys they want to throw back, sometimes spend a great deal of alone time.
Beauty fades too. 90% of the population is overweight.
To find a guy you might be compatible with, look in places you like to go, or subjects you enjoy or know about. Go to computer clubs (assuming you spend time online alot) for example.
Guys do see past the outside, I've had bfs who are very shy that I had to make the first move and say hello. I've had very cute bfs who made the first move (at the time I didn't take him very seriously because I had self-esteem issues), and I've had average guys who may've been friends or friends of friends and we just hit it off.
You're at a tough age. Love will come, it always does. From one of my boyfriends I got this advice one day: 'There is nothing sexier than a lady who has self confidence.'
Love yourself, smile, and the right guys will come along.
By the way I'm not 'skinny'.

Answer 3

Coming from someone who has been overweight most of my life I can give you this bit of advice. First of all you start by learning to love yourself. If you can't enjoy yourself how do you think you will be happy with someone else in your world. Take yourself out on a date sometimes and see how that makes you feel inside.
As far as the weight goes, girl there are guys out here that love a beautiful plus size woman. At one point I weighted 330 pounds and I had options on the right and the left. So many guys calling me for dates that I couldn't be serious with just only one. It's all about how you carry yourself and how you present yourself to the opposite sex. When I told people how much I weighted back then they thought I was lying because I carried it so well. But if you think your weight is the problem then you deal with it to make you happy and not for anyone else. My weight wasn't a real problem but it was unhealthy and at times it did get me down, sometimes. Diet and exercise works for some but only if you have the motivation to do it. Take it slow and remember that you are doing it for you. I go up and down with my weight so 2 years ago I had gastric bypass surgery to help me maintain a healthy weight. You might want to look into that, I recommend it to anyone who struggles with weight. So overall, you need a new attitude and it should start with you loving yourself. I wake up every morning and tell myself how beautiful I am so it's nothing new if I hear it from someone else or the lesser being not hearing it at all. You'll feel so much better about yourself if you make those few adjustments. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Everybody has something that is holding them back. Overweight or skinny, there is always more than meets the eye, always something each individual is struggling with and is unhappy with themselves about. You should be proud of yourself for taking action to improve yourself regardless of what other think. Yes, there are guys who see past the outside but they are more precious and harder to find. Just hang in there until then. The best way to prepare for a relationship is to not need it, to be secure in yourself regardless of how many individuals are or are not in your life. I am waiting also, things will happen in due time. Maybe there is an interest or hobby you can pursue to help you until then? Learning a musical instrument, writing, volunteering, gardening, etc. Best wishes to you, things will work out!

Answer 5

Hi how are you? I kinda know where you are coming from. Self confidence is a huge turn on for guys. I've seen a lot of beautiful over weight girls who carry themselves with class and skinny girls who don't. It's all in the way you carry yourself. Try joining a class you've always wanted too...art, pottery, music, ect... it will help you to meet people and build your self esteem up. Also, when I'm having a bad day, I like to give myself a mini-make over...hair cut, getting my nails done, buying a new shirt. Also remember that there are guys who see the inside of a women and guys who like bigger beautiful guys. But remember before anyone else can make you happy, you need to make yourself happy first.
All the best!!

Answer 6

Hi K, going out for afternoons walks will help you both ways, it allows you to get out and see new people and will also clear your head and begin to think about things more positive in life.
There are many people who do notice the heart in side, and how special you are, you need to be caring towards your self, and love who you are. This really does make a difference to how others react around you.

Answer 7

Well you can start by changing your lifestyle. Try not to watch too much T.V.. Limit yourself to 7 hours a week including weekends. Try not to use food for boredom or for comfort. That's the worse. Try walking for 15 minutes everyday.

Throw away all of your junk food. It's hard but you'll notice results.

Answer 8

work out! start eating right and saying no to that extra comfort food. do a hobby like dance or yoga class too. that way you hang out with people who are active. there's a lot more to relationships than looks but physical attraction is sooo important too, and being overweight doesn't show that you value your body.

Answer 9

here's what you should do. yeah lose the weight but think of other things that will make you happy besides from having relationships. You should be happy on your own and not wait for someone to complete you bec. there's no such thing. You'll never be happy in any relationships that you're gona have if your not satisfied by being on your own.

Answer 10

Who are you looking for? Generally people relate to people that are similar to them in some ways. Maybe some overweight guys are looking for you, but you keep on focusing on the guys that are going after your skinny friends...Just my 2 points.