Always he talks of working late.yet his colleques are always home. he buys everything that i need and just goes like that. should I trust his love for me or he is seeing someone
2007-01-31 17:23:46 · 15 answers · asked by Mama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do u want someone that buys u everything but isnt there for u or someone that cant wait to share his time with u and instead of things gives u love ?
i am sure u know ur answer by urself
2007-01-31 18:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm sorry to hear that you feel this way whilst you are pregnant. It is the last thing you need to worry about.
But I can only advise you to ask your boyfriend straight out. Ask him to be honest with you. Tell him what you're worried about, explain the suspicions that you are having and then leave it a while and say nothing else. Give an opportinuty to explain himself.
Depending on how long you have known him you should be able to tell whether he is lying or not. He might even be telling you the truth. But I must warn you, if he gets upset to the point of being a little excessive then I would come to the conclusion that your suspicions are correct.
I had a friend once who experienced the same. I advised him to check his girlfriends mobile, but to do it in front of her giving the impression that he was just checking out the features of the mobile. It's best to do this if your boyfriend is getting dressed or busy doing something. Check for any texts and time of calls. Fortunately for my friend this turned out to be the turnung point in his relationship which eventually led to them being split up.
If you decide to check his mobile and if he trys to take it from you quickly, then again I must say that your suspicions may be correct.
I understand that this is a scary time for you and I really hope that your suspicions turn out to be wrong.
As I stated already all you can ask of your boyfriend is his honesty, the rest will be up to you and how you handle the situation.
I know you say you love him, but if it turns out that he is cheating on you, then even if he is sorry to the point of crying his heart out, he will do it again. Think of your unborn child and yourself and ask yourself do I deserve better? the answer is YES.
Good luck :)
2007-02-01 02:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys cheat because they know they can get better women, if he truly liked u and was attracted to u in such a way then he wud alwyas be loyal and faithful, once a guy cheats he will always end up having another woman, maybe now or later on in life, its impossible for the guy to stay with a girl for life when he has cheated, not saying u r unattractive cuz i aint seen ya, but take it from me as guy, iof a guy cheats he knows he can and wants better, maybe some girl in his league, good lookign slim, tal fair exotic, trust me in this, cya. lozl
2007-02-01 01:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be cheating usually when men are young and they're gf/wife is pregnant they get scared and weird they stay out a lot act busy work more hours all so they dont have to face the fact that they're gonna be a dad and they just dont want to admit it. But he shoud come around talk to him.
2007-02-01 01:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by keyon's mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried phoning him at work when he is supposed to be working late? I know this may be a bit off, but when he says he is working late, take a visit to his works to see if he is there (if its not too far). Or just ask him why he is doing this, but don't cause an argument out of it. I wish you luck with him and the new baby.
2007-02-01 02:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by Honey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does your heart tell you he's doing. 9 times out of 10 the wife/girlfriend knows.You want to believe him so bad that when he tells you he is working late or going to have a couple of drinks with the guys from work you talk yourself right out of thinking what he is really up to.You think about it but then say to yourself no not my boyfriend he loves me and besides we are going to have a baby.One thing women need to realaize is he is a man first then your husband or boyfriend and with that in mind when he isn't with you, I'll just say this out of sight out of mind.
2007-02-01 02:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably is. Check his text messages on cell phone to be sure. If he erases them, then he has something to hide. Otherwise, smell his shirt near the collar.
2007-02-01 01:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Raven Jr. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow him 1 day
2007-02-01 02:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by ?*?*? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men who have nothing to hide...hide NOTHING!
Either you trust him, or you don't.
If you trust him then you have to ask yourself why you are obsessing over his possibly cheating on you. If you don't trust him, then you have to ask yourself why you continue to live under that condition.
2007-02-01 01:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating but you can't worry about that at this time. Just concentrate on trying to be happy and healthy for your baby.
2007-02-01 01:27:21 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋