My boyfriend is caring, loving and he gives me a lot of reassurance. However, there are times when for example, he needs focus on his job or he gets a litte distant and distracted and if I express my insecurities and worries to him, he gets upset with me? A friend of mine told me that her boyfriend reacts exactly the same way. I don't understand why. Can you explain to me what he is feeling and why he gets so upset with me for that?
2007-01-31 17:01:34 · 16 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats how he loves you.. thats how he express his love to you, just hold him to you tightly and he'll love you more!!
2007-01-31 17:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're answering your own question. There are times he needs to focus on other things and you get all needy on him. Then he gets angry. Case solved. At times he feels pressure at work and feels it needs his attention. Respect that and be supportive of him. Rather than weep "you're neglecting me!!" give him space but be supportive. The last thing he needs is more stress. Ask him if there's anything you can do for him, try to help him out. Being supportive will probably bring you more of the attention that you crave than putting MORE pressure on him will.
2007-01-31 17:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your insecurities that bothers him, but his. You are having him to face something personal about himself and the relationship. He wants to remain focus on what he feels he can handle and deal with, and not to content with anything that is out side of his way of his thinking.
It sounds like he want you to get your act together without involving him.Mostly, he is dealing with some personal issues of his own and perhaps he feels he don't have the antidote to give you. Do your boy friend ever talks about how he views his life and his insecurities?
My advice is to test his openness. Pick at his mind and sees what he fears for him self. What I am saying is this, if you trying to get $8 and I am trying to $10 dollars and you come to me stressing how important for you to have the money and yet, I'm trying to get the money for myself. How can I deal with your situation first when mine is in need of help.
They're something on your boy friend's mind, and they're ways of getting him to open his thoughts, but I am unable to mention it on
the computer, perhaps you already have some ideas.
God Bless and good luck
2007-01-31 17:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, he needs to get things done alone, he needs his space. his work is what he does alone, and maybe he wants to be alone for that timing. he just needs to finish it. A man's job is very important to him because thats his source of income.
He does not want anyone to distract him from that. but once that job is done for the time being, he'll be fine until his next task for his job. He needs to focus in his work in order to move up in rank. someone nagging him and getting in the way of that is probably making him upset.
hate to break it to u but its the truth. remember, work and girlfriends or boyfriends dont mix.
2007-01-31 17:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by loveithateit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women need CONSTANT reassurance for their insecurities all the time. If they don't get it, they say a guy doesn't care about them. From a guys point of view, we hear "Are we there yet? Are we there yet? Are we there yet? Are we there yet?..."
2007-01-31 17:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by Xfactor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmm.....because we are guys.
He is not being a pig. Just the same way a woman doesn't want to see her boyfriend every single hour of every day it's the same thing. Unless one of us is mental.
LOL
2007-01-31 17:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a he.
They can't figure us out and I don't want to figure them out.
Maybe it is the times you pick to talk to him.
When he's working or trying to get something done isn't exactly the best time to bother anyone.
2007-01-31 17:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rainy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your stressed out and somebody keeps bugging you, how would u feel? The least you can help him during these times is peace of mind, not nagging.
2007-01-31 17:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by Rio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 19:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by delk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not like women- it is hard to understand them completely. Just do not make the mistake of thinking they feel and think as you do or should.
2007-01-31 17:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your insecurity is your problem and no guy likes a heavy maintenance girlfriend. Lighten up. If you don't trust him you don't need him.
2007-01-31 17:07:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋