i told a good female friend i have feelings for her. she said she dosnt want to 'risk our friendship'. i really have some strong feelings for her, is there any way to re-assure her that ill always be here for her no matter what? is there any way to get out of the 'friend zone'?
FYI ive known her about 3 years, the whole time we worked togeather, but not for the past few weeks. she says she can tell im a really good guy and she hasnt had good luck w/ guys id like a chance to change that.
2007-01-31 17:00:16 · 5 answers · asked by somedude 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately the "frienship zone" is something that people will usually stick others into if they are not attracted to them. It may be physical, or it may be that she has an unhealthy dating lifestyle where she just wants to date loosers or bad boys. I think that the whole thing about letting her know you'll always be there is very sweet and nice, but also a little desperate and clingy.
What you need to show her is that you are your own man. You are a really nice guy, but you also have confidence in yourself and in your future. You need to show her that you enjoy life and you'd be perfectly happy by yourself, you don't HAVE to have someone to just make you feel special or wanted, you know what you're worth. So do a quick check up of your qualities. What's there to like about you? Are you decent looking? Smart? Good sense of humor? (we already know you're nice). Do a self-evaluation and hopefully realize that you ARE someone that a girl should be attracted to. She's not doing you any favors by liking you. This doesn't mean that you have to be cocky, but this does mean that you need to be confident.
Girls are attracted to these two features the most (actually, most guys too). CONFIDENCE and HAPPINESS. Now, most confident guys out there are cocky jerks, you don't have to be one. But if you are sure about yourself and where you're going in life and you're happy with your life, then when you flash that confident and sincere smile, your girl won't know what hit her. But if you continue with this, "please, please, let's try going out, and I'll carry your books and water your flowers, even if it doesn't work out" attitude, then you'll end up as her "nice friend", someone she'll cry to about all her relationships, but will never give a chance. A girl needs to be able to respect you, she will never respect you if you let her walk all over you.
Dig deep, find confidence and happiness, project those for others to see and you'll see how differently girls around you react. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-31 17:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to give it time. If it is meant to be, it will happen. Stay in the "friend zone" for the time being, at least you are IN a zone with her. It could easily become more. Don't push it, or you may push her away.
2007-02-01 01:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is worried to get involved with you as she had been hurt in the past. I would sit down and talk to her. Explain to her that you are interested in her but if she does not want to be with you, tell her that you respect it and you still would like to be her friend. You never know, she may change her mind.
2007-02-01 01:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by violet b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm sorry. She's not interested at all. You can hang around and wait for her to like you, it may take a few marriages and divorces before she realizes you were there all along. It's up to you. How long can you wait?
2007-02-01 01:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. i think she doesnt want to lose u at any cost, she fear that if in case she loves you she might lose u, plz talk to her and make her accept ur love, good luck.
2007-02-01 01:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋