He used to play with him all the time. Now he does not want anything to do with him. I do not know why. When I ask him about it he says he's tired. Even on the days he doen't work. What is his problem?
2007-01-31 16:56:57 · 16 answers · asked by Kayla F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
How old is your son? Lots of men have a time tough time interacting with very young children. Also, some men get turned off by their wives criticism of their interactions with their children. How is your son responding to this? Did your child go to daycare? When a child enters day care before age 1, fathers get more disapproving of their kids, research found.
2007-01-31 17:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hello Kayla F !
Your husband doesn't want to play with your son because he's tired, even on his day off ? Has he been neglecting any other responsibilities other than his son ? It sounds like your husband has depression, one of the symptoms is loss of energy, no motivation, and body pain, did you know that ?Ask him what's going on, and tell him to get a check up by a doctor.
It's a lot to take care of a young child, it's physically, and emotionally draining. I think you should have a talk with your husband, and try not to be too critical, because you do want him to open up, and tell you what's going on..
So, what I said before; a check up to get to the root of the problem..
I wish you, and and your loved ones all the best.
Love, light, and peace,
tishy
2007-02-01 08:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by bubletish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he misses the time you had together before children. Don't nag him about it. Instead, lay off. Maybe you could set up a date with your husband and get someone to watch your son. On the other hand, he may be going through something at work or something he has not opened up to you about. I would start with talking to him about HIM. See if you can't get him to open up. Maybe he really is tired and doesn't want to tell you something may be wrong? Men can be tricky sometimes.
2007-02-01 02:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by busemomme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there may be something else going on than not wanting to play with his son. Try to tune into your husband and find out what is really going on. Think about the last time you remember your husband really being excited about an activity and see if there is some way you can incorporate that activity into something that both your husband and son can do together. If it is going to a baseball game, see if you can help him line up a night out at the ball game with your son.
One key piece of information missing is the age of your son. When our kids reached 8 years old and older it became easier and easier for them to go out with their dad.
Your husband may be feeling like he needs a break and maybe a weekend trip somewhere with some of his buddies would help him regroup.
If your son is very small perhaps your husband is missing your attention and may be feeling a little out of the loop. Make him feel like the king of his palace. Let him know how important he is and maybe make a point of going out on regular dates so the two of you can reconnect.
My husband and I call it "recalibrating". If you have a bike or other tool with moving parts you know that sometimes they can get out of alignment and to get them to work at peak performance you need to take them into the shop to have the tech get all the moving parts back into alignment. This is recalibrating. Sometimes marriages need recalibrating and it can be as easy as a night out occassionally with no discussion about the kid(s) allowed.
Try to think of how you would like to be treated if you were walking around the house tired, and perhaps holding some big worry or concern inside. Then do this for your husband. Things will all fall in place.
2007-02-01 01:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Stayathomemom.com 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son?
Perhaps your fella has post natal depression?
I know, I know that's crazy...right?
But, before your son, you were just two people. You could do whatever you wanted whenever you wanted, but now this has changed and it's hit him hard.
Talk honestly with your husband to find out.
Or, if he really is 'too tired' all the time, get him to go to a doctor, perhaps he's anaemic or there's a problem with his thyroid or something.
2007-02-01 05:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you'll have to be the main parent. If you try to push them together it'll probably only make it worse. Maybe hubby is having some sort of depression or bad time? If you push it too much he'll just resent your son for making the two of your lives miserable because you'll fight all the time about it. Try and do things as the three of you...not just one or the other? I hope things turn out for you. Good luck.
2007-02-01 01:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by claireandmouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a lousy father. Is he a lousy husband also? If he can find time for you, he can find time for his son. If he can't find time for either of you, why are you still with him? Don't pour more of you time into a relationship that isn't working. Give your son a chance to have a father. Maybe the threat of you leaving will be enough for him to change. If not, you should leave.
2007-02-01 01:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look all i can say is kick his *** to da curve cuz he dont care he must not be feelin like it?oh and are you giving him some?Your son could be to old for what he wants and your husband cuz be getting bord.How old is your husband he could be getting to old.Maybe he really is tired but to answer some of my Questions Heres my eamil (savon_number1@yahooo.com)Let me know!
2007-02-01 01:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by say-say l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is bored with him.
Make up a reason to get out of the house and not take the baby with you. Tell him you are tired.
2007-02-01 01:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the problem 's.
But if I was you, I wont play with hubby anymore and when he ask I'd tell him I"m tired.
your husband sound like a big baby.
2007-02-01 01:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by ღ♥ஐcookie1ஐ♥ღ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋