I'm 19 years old and have a 17 year old sister. This year for christmas my parents told me they were having a baby. Now i'm very happy for my parents and happy that i'm going to have a new sibling but at the same time i feel weird about it too. I keep thinking how this baby will change our lives and how everyone else will change as well. Also i come from and indian family where there is always a push for a boy. Now my parents don't beleive this way but my grandparetns who live with us do. They don't treat me and my sister well and i fear that if the baby is a boy that this view of favoring the boy will carry to my parents. Also a 19 year age difference makesme seem as if ppl will see me as a second mother or aunt to this child and not a sister and that becuase of the age difference i won't be able to have a proper sibling relationship with him or her...maybe thats why i feel weird. Does feeling this way make me a bad older sister.
2007-01-31 16:52:53 · 9 answers · asked by K. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Me and my little brother are 16 years apart. At first it was strange but now he is 9 and we are best buds. There is nothing better in the world than having someone look up to you. Having a little brother makes me want to be a better person and role model for him.
2007-01-31 17:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I was around 17 years old when my mother told me she was pregnant. It was a really weird feeling, because I wasn't used to kids and I was used to an independent mother. It was harder for me to accept that she was pregnant than for me to accept my new stepfather and FOUR stepsiblings (all in their teens).
But... when the baby was born, everything was great!! She's really cute and I'm so glad she's around. I do have a relationship with her, but now that I've moved out of the country it's a little more difficult. I don't see why you have to be viewed as a second mother or aunt (even though you will probably be very involved in raising the child). About the favoring boys over girls issue: if your parents don't believe in this and treat you well, there is no reason that they should treat this baby poorly. Also, you will be there for the baby to give it any love it should lack (which I somehow doubt it will).
Good Luck!!
2007-01-31 17:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by KB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me explain things from another perspective. You are both old enough to kinda stand up for yourselves so why do you have to worry about the new sibling? Even if it turns out to be a boy, your new brother did not come onto this earth to make life terrible for the both of you. He just wants everyone to love him. I think when it happens you will change your mind. Of course everyone will fuss over him but in any family situation, he's gonna love his sisters more than any other people. Who cares what other people think? 'People' have never said or done anything nice anyway. LOVE the new baby with all your heart because that is the only right thing to do.
2007-01-31 17:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by aken 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are not a bad older sister, just young--i have a brother who is 35 yrs older than me (he passed away 4 yrs ago); my oldest sister was 34 yrs older than me; i also have a brother who was 33 yrs older (they are all dead now) i am 49 yrs old -i will be 50 yrs old this june. our father was 61 yrs old when i was born. i also have 3 other siblings that are still alive-my brother is 15 yrs older, 1 sister is 14 yrs old and 1 sister is 10 yrs & 3 months exactly older than me. my brother that is 15 yrs older than me and i have always had a close relationship and still do-my sister that is 14 yrs older than me have just started to know each other on an adult basis in the last 4 yrs-i am very fortunate to have these older siblings-my brother is always there for me and will drop everything if i need help. if your grandparents do not treat you and your sister well now-it will not be the fault of the new baby--sounds like they have a problem--please do not blame this child when he/she arrives as it is not the baby's fault--your relationship with your little brother/sister will be whatever you make it--i would not give up my older siblings for all the money in the world.... it's up to you
2007-01-31 17:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What your feeling is normal. There is an 18 year age difference between me and my youngest sister. People look at me and think she's my daughter. It bothered me at first, but now I'm just like "She's my sister not my daughter". As long as you act like a big sister to the baby that how you will be viewed. The baby is going to change your lives, but for the better.
2007-02-01 04:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are not a bad older sister. I sense just a little jealousy in case it is a boy, but when the baby gets here, you are going to love it so much and you will probably get to keep it some since you are the eldest and you can develop a very strong relationship with this baby. Don't worry, you will do just fine.
2007-01-31 17:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by Dyan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no no It is very normal to have that kind of feeling I think,,
I know one guy,, she is 23 and she has a brother who is really young.. like 7?? but they are having really good time together.. she loves her brother so much,,! and ur grandma thing.. I understnad because I'm Korean and a lot of old people in KOrea prefer boys too.. um.. I don't think it would matter to u even if ur parents favor boys because u r an adult.. u know u don't need that much of parents' attention.. and I don't think favoring the boy will carry to your parents//
2007-01-31 17:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by ahn h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my little brother are 22 years apart and i have another brother and we are 16 years apart, their is no difference, we treat each other as brother and sister i guess the age difference made us closer. and about your grandparents well good luck
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2016-12-03 07:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋