*URGENT*Are you able to deal with things your bf/gf says to you about...?

Question

things they've done in the past? Communication is good but sometimes we hear things that may change how we view them. Would you rather know or should they keep it to themselves?

Answer 1

You shouldn't lie about the past, but there's no need to drag out all of the bad things you did since you were 3. We've all made some dumb mistake, and maybe some really bad choices, but that doesn't mean that we would do them now. I think that our loved ones need to know that if they ask us, we'll tell them, but they shouldn't be obsessed about knowing all of our sins and we shouldn't be eager to share those things, they'll just bring them down.

Here's a perfect example. Let's say I'm dating a girl and I really like her and she really likes me and we're getting really serious. I wouldn't want her to tell me that she slept with half a football team and cheated on most of her ex-boyfriends. It maybe be true that this information may be helpful, but it also would make me paranoid and would sabotage the whole relationship over something she may have done years ago and doesn't do anymore. Still, if I asked her about it, I'd expect her to be honest.

Answer 2

I think maybe certain things about the past should not be spoken about unless it is gonna directly affect your relationship.For example you do not need to tell her how many sexual partners you have had and what you have done with them, however if you have a child from one of these previous relationships that is something you would need to talk about! Some things are better left unsaid-but always be truthful aabout a subject if directly asked because honesty is an important part of any relationship. But there is no harm in keeping some of your cards close to your chest hope this helps :)

Answer 3

If they are someone I care about, it doesn't even have to be someone I'm dating then I have nothing to hide from them. Secrets have a way of coming up and haunting us. Besides you shouldn't judge someone by the things they did before or who they were before because it is those exact things that make them who they are today.

Answer 4

It depends actually on you. If you're the type of person that likes to know everything about your partner, including their past or the type that doesn't really care about their past.The past is what makes a person who they are in the present. If you really want to be with your partner, i suggest that you listen to them especially when they talk about their past because they are trying to share something with you that might had a profound effect in their lives. If you care about her or him, go for it. But if its always about their ex's and she always reference them or compares them with you, then i suggest no! It's their past life with them, not with you.

Answer 5

Well it depends on what it is. When that happends just be like, ANYWAYS... Lets talk about reality going on right now, Not the past.

Answer 6

you be conscious of i admire you, yet when I went to pass to my kin in Texas I slept with my ex and greater advantageous than a pair cases. yet i admire you and you like me so which you will artwork it out and don't stay on my human mistake. My final words have been " could Jehovah forgive me, in case you don't get out my face i will kill you." chuffed to assert we at the instant are not together....... LOSER

Answer 7

Tell them, but wait untill you know each other for a while.

Answer 8

i would like to know

Because it is the past who had shaped him/her to be the person whom i cherise and love now

Answer 9

It depends on what it is..........