Is it possible to cheat and still be in love??

Question

So the problem is I have cheated on my boyfriend off and on since we have been together. For some reason or another I feel I find things in other men my boyfriend dosnt have..We had alot of problems in the begining and that is why I did it then he had a bed drug addiction he is now clean and doing everything possible to make me happy I still have two other guys I talk to ..Is the problem me or him?? Is this normal???

Answer 1

You can cheat and still love your boyfriend but that does not appear to be the case here. You find things in other men your boyfriend does NOT have and on top of that you have been though so much with your boyfriend in the beginning.

I know exactly what the problem is, you are feeling that you should be with him, because he's clean and trying to make you happy. Don't feel obligated to be with him it's his job to stay clean for himself.

Answer 2

It is completely possible, and you even stated exactly how to achieve it in your question. I wouldn't call it "cheating", I would simply call it Living, and that kind of mentality can be beneficial for a lot more than just love. You should enjoy the pleasures life gives you, and deal with the problems it brings, but there is no point in worrying over what you cannot control, but that doesn't mean you don't have to be aware of the possibility of failure. Simply put, don't let your self suffer over what COULD happen. Concentrate on what IS happening, try not to allow events that will make you suffer happen, but don't let the idea that they could happen hurt you. Only allow yourself to suffer when something happens that merits it. Even then, try to make the most out of what you have.

Answer 3

If you truly loved him, would you have cheated on him? Just because you had a rough start doesn't mean it was an open invitation for you to sleep around on him. It's not normal, nor is it right. If you truly cared, you would have stuck by him through thick or thin. If you were unhappy, why didn't you just break up with him? When he finds out (and eventually he will, whether you tell him or not) it will only hurt worse. You need to figure out what you want, and make a choice, instead of playing around.

Answer 4

I have done the same thing to my previous bf, he was never here he was always on tour (he is a tour guide) and he did everything in his power to make me happy and he did make me happy. We ended the relationship not because i cheated but we just didn't see each enough

Now i have a new bf and i have consider to cheat on although he is giving me everything i need and more

I think it is a thing that you were born with, and it all depends on what you are gonna do with it, are you gonna fight it or not
If have decided to fight it, so i haven't cheated on my bf and every time i start to think of it i just go to my bf lay in his arms feeling close to him and i realize i do have what i need, there is no need to go and look for anything else

Answer 5

OK STOP CHEATING you don't obviously love your boyfriend if you cheating or there has to be some underlining issue for you behavior do your self and your boyfriend a favor either break up with him or stop cheating cuz he will eventually find out and you hurt him sociologically and emotionally and in turn that will make you feel bad

Answer 6

No I do not feel that it is possible to be truly in love with someone and to be cheating on them. If it were true there is no way anyone could cheat on someone they were truly in love with. He may have his problems but everything listed is an excuse or an attempt to pass the blame to anyone other than yourself. You are the only one in control of your actions, and the blame goes to you for those actions. If you cheat and you think you love this guy then you are only lying to yourself. It may be possible you have no idea of what love is, but its not love when you have to go elsewhere to find satisfaction from another.
-NmD!

Answer 7

Melika,

I don't mean to be cruel here, but reread what you just posted and you answer your own question.

And one of these days, if you keep this lifestyle up, your going to be dieing of a disease that you are also passing around.

You need to get your morals and respect for yourself and towards your boyfriend in order... No wait, actually the best thing for him is for you to dump him.

I hope he finds out, he deserves to know...

I want to say I'm sorry for being so darn mean here, but dang it, I'm so sick of seeing this stupidity going on everywhere.

Its like the teaching of or knowledge of common sense, having morals, and respect are gone from this world.

Answer 8

I hate to seem harsh but it doesn't seem like you're actually ready to make a commitment to him. You may love him or have a genuine fondness for him but I don't think you are in love with him. If you can't love him and commit solely to him then I don't think you should be with him because you are wasting both your times. And there is no honesty in your relationship and one of the keystones to any good relationship is trust and honesty. I hope this helps you.

Answer 9

well you don't actually love him love him, if you truly did you would stick by his side through thick and thin, like marriage .......

He hasn't been able to fulfill your personal needs, all you've done is kept him as a security blanket so you wouldn't have to deal with being serious with any other guy or fear being abandoned....

First thing you should do now is look inside yourself and find what makes you the way you are......if he's clean and working things out now that's great......but you're the one who has to live with the guilt of what you've also done to him......

Answer 10

Both, chances are you feel some sort of guilt about his drug addiction and you're afraid to leave him cold turkey. But you're in control of what u do, so is the problem him or you????