I have a huge problem. I have been with the same guy for 5 years.
I was 16 when we got together. The truth is I have been unfaithful.
I cheated on him after we were together for about a year. The reason I did it was because he wasn't treating me right and I heard from quite a few people that he had cheated on me. He knows about me cheating and had forgiven me. Now 4 years and a baby later he just tells me that he had sex with a prostitute.
And that he did it out of revenge after he foud out about what I had done. I am very upset and uncomfortable now. Why wait 4 years to tell me? And I don't know what I am suppossed to do now?
Am I a hypocrite for feeling like I want to leave him? Someone please give me some feedback.
2007-01-31 16:37:15 · 5 answers · asked by jenn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that it is a good sign, he could have chosen to say nothing but he didnt that means he has respect for you and your relationship.
It happened 4 years ago, it will bother you (if it didnt then i would have been worried) it is in the past and i believe he hadnt done it again, so he had learnt his lesson
I think just give yourself some time to work the thing through and be open about it to him he will help you in any way he can
Work through this together
2007-01-31 16:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the guy needed to get the whole thing off of his chest and out in the open. How you react depends a lot on how he presented the information. If he was honest, sad, sorry that he did it, asking forgiveness, and swears that he hasn't cheated on you since, I think he deserves a chance. I mean, think about it: you cheated on him because you were angry, too. Very young people make really stupid decisions based entirely on the emotion of the moment. You have child together and that's no small thing to consider. You probably deserve a little time to get over the hurt, but don't punish the guy unnecessarily. There's the bigger picture - you're a family. Work on that.
2007-02-01 01:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he did this 4 years ago and hasn't cheated since, I would maybe reconsider leaving him. It sounds like you guys were off to a rocky start, but you have a baby together so it sounds like you've moved past a lot of your problems.
2007-02-01 00:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by azjen77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only reason he told you is because he really loves you and feels guilty... at least it was a prostitute and not some he cares for..... just continue your life with him, and i hope you both have a great life together
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2007-02-01 00:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sania R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋